Post # 1
A bit of background – I got engaged in November, and we’re getting married in October, so a fairly short engagement. I phoned family when we got engaged, and then announced it on facebook. Since the first few days, I havent posted much on fb as I don’t want to bore people (one post in Dec, one in Jan so far)!! However, when I do write something, my Aunt (with whom I am fairly close) keeps putting comments which upset me (like ‘What will you talk about on October 26th’ or ‘be careful, or you’ll soon be thinking that napkin colours are more important than 3rd world debt!’).
Now, I may be overreacting but I feel like I’m not allowed to be excited about planning. My sister just stayed with my Aunt, and discovered that my aunt is worried I am spending so much of my time thinking about the wedding that, afterwards I am going to be bereft or something, and that me and my SO will have nothing to talk about!! Granted, I am currently unemployed, but I have only been out of work for a month, and 2 weeks of that was the holidays!
Should I say something, as I feel like not putting anything else about the wedding on fb, even though I think other people would be interested.
Post # 3
You can change your privacy settings so that your aunt can’t see your posts, and then you don’t have to worry about it.
Also, be careful about FB wedding posting, because you may end up with fb friends expecting to be invited when they aren’t.
I wouldn’t say anything to your aunt…just quietly stop talking to her about the wedding.
Post # 4
I think your best bet is to just ignore her. Thank her for her concern, if you like, but you are totally allowed to be excited about your wedding. Maybe she’s jealous?
Post # 5
sounds like she’s a little jealous…
does she have a daughter? if she doesn’t, she might be wishing she was more invovled, actually.
Post # 6
She’s probably just concerned that you’ll become a bit self-centered and lose perspective of what’s important in life.
Sometimes I think older generations don’t really “get” facebook and other social media sites because you’re just posting a fun message about your wedding (which you’re totally allowed to be excited for!) and she doesn’t get it that not only is it socially rude to post a negative comment on every post but what you post isn’t what you live and die by, it’s just a post.
Post # 7
I love wedding bee! She doesnt have any children, and her wedding day was a disaster – loads went wrong. So I wondered whether she was trying to prepare me for it not going right.
I like the idea of putting happy comments – I told my mum about it, and she said to put (on the comment ‘What will you talk about on October 26th?) ‘Whats for dinner, did you remember to do the washing, how was your day’ the same stuff we talk about now! 🙂
It really narked me that she got the date of our wedding wrong too!!
Thanks all 🙂
Post # 8
i would just delete her comments….that should get the point across.
Post # 9
I would delete her and the comments! But then again I am pretty harsh. You have all the right to be excited about planning and feel free to share it on YOUR facebook. She needs to back off, people like that piss me off. I hate when people are so opinionated about other peoples’ lives.
Post # 10
@Karissa:Exactly! This is exactly how I feel. Although we are fairly close for aunt and niece, she doesn’t really know me, so why does she feel that she can comment on my life, and talk to my sister (who I am REALLY close to) about my mental state!!!
Post # 11
Personally I dont post wedding stuff on facebook.. but if its important to you to do so then either ignore her comments or edit your privacy settings so she cant see them. I dont think she intends to be mean spirited. Older people can be odd sometimes
Post # 12
Ignore them. And block her ability to see them.