- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Hi Bees! I’ll try to break this up so it’s easier to read. Background: FI’s Aunt C is traditional and sentimental (with more mental). She gave me the “Theology of His/Her Body” book in front of FI’s whole family and said that when we decide to “let ourselves enter each other’s sacred garden” that these books will help us find peace and understanding like they did for she and her hubby. Thoughtful, but embarrassing time to give it and an accurate understanding of how Aunt C is. To give you more info, my Fiance and I aren’t having a registry because we both lived on our own for 5 years. When people ask, we tell them we aren’t registered and are taking a honeymoon cruise.
Fast forward a month when Aunt C finds out that Fiance and I aren’t having a registry. Fiance told her it’s because we have two of everything. She asked, “Do you need a set of china?” He said, “We already have a set of dishes, plus a new set in the box, and a set from when Megz moved.” She said, “But do you have a GOOD set of china?” She said we need to have a registry or no one will get anything.
Fast forward to yesterday. She calls Fiance and says, “Where are you and Megz registered?” Fiance says, “I told you we aren’t.” She said, “You and Megz are being difficult. You aren’t the traditional couple. You need to pick something. Your aunt, uncle, and I are going in three ways for a gift.” So Fiance told her I was having a pampered chef bridal shower. Besides complaining that it wasn’t on a day she was available to come (what a shame haha), she asked if I had wanted any big items. Fiance said, “No. We just need measuring cups, ice cream scoops, and oven mitts.” She said, “You don’t need pots and pans?” Again, Fiance explained to her we had enough of them. The only reason we need measuring cups is the labels wore off. She wasn’t having that. She said she wants to get us “something practical, but something we can have to remember her in a special way.” Yes, I’m sure every time I go to cook spaghetti I will think of her. Good grief!
She kept prodding him to pick something else. He said, “Well, we’re going on the cruise, and they have some options where you can send us a bucket of ice with champaign or a meal for one of their fancy restaurants.” Aunt C says, “Your uncles want to get you something practical.” So then he said, “We plan on getting a house after we get married.” She said, “Great! What do you need for the house?” He said, “We need a couch and a dining room set.” Aunt C said, “Oh well your uncles aren’t going to chip in that much money for a whole couch!” Fiance said, “Maybe it could just be a gift card for some of the couch. We can pay for the rest when the time comes.” She said, “We’ll see.” Who knew picking out your own gift would be such a dilemma!!
Here is the clincher: At the end of May she’s coming to our area (she lives in a neighboring state) and wants to talk to ME about it because “Megz will be more sensible since she and I are women and women have an unspoken understanding.” The thing is this is something I’m over being sensible about (I’d prefer no gift at all at this point), and Fiance and I are on the same team. I’m very patient and try to be reasonable, but I’m also very blunt and have bigger and better stuff to worry about less than 2 months to the wedding.
If anyone has any advice on what to say to her when we have this “woman to woman” talk I’d appreciate it. I feel Fiance and I have exhausted every effort to give her ideas, and this woman to woman talk isn’t going to fix anything.