Post # 1
Having not been to too many weddings, I have no idea if having a gift registry is ok here or would come across poorly. FI and I have lived together for many years so either asking guests to give money as gifts (if they would like to give us a gift) or having a registry would be the best options for us, as we have most of the every day stuff and more that we could need.
I’m curious to see what other Aussie bees have done/seen.
Post # 3
@glow_worm: I’m in my 40s and have been to 20+ weddings. I’ve been to a few weddings where there was a gift registry, and I don’t think it’s a problem. I always see it as an aid to guests: we’re welcome to use it but we don’t have to.
I’d never heard of money as a wedding gift until I joined international web sites like Wedding Bee, so I advise against asking for money.
ETA: I’m not sure if this counts for anything, but David Jones and Myer do gift registries.
Post # 4
@paula1248: Thanks! To be honest FI and I feel weird about it either way. It feels weird that people are expected to buy us presents.
If we do a registry, that’s how I would hope it would be seen. As a bit of help for anyone who wants to go off of it, but not something we expect our guests to have to use.
Post # 5
I’ve been to only one wedding that has a registry. All the others had a wishing well, online of physical.
We’ve asked not to receive gifts, as his house is chockers with everyday items and I can’t think of one item we could possibly need… but we would like to buy the actual house, so we suggested that if they still wish to give us a gift a contribution to the downpayment would be the most useful gift at this time and greatly appreciated.
Post # 6
Weve been to quite a few weddings of late and even our own. Most have had registries at Myer and a wishing well as well. We just had a wishing well and no one had an issue usinig it or had a problem gifting money 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks ladies, that makes me feel so much better!
Post # 8
I’ve never been to an Aussie wedding in my life that had a registry – but I’m in NQ & we’re a bit casual for all that! The standard in everything I’ve been to has been wishing wells/gifting cash, but on international forums like this, the notion of cash registries etc is a massive taboo!
Post # 9
We had one, at Myer, most people either gave us money or something off the registry. Maybe 10% gave us a physical gift that wasn’t off the registry. We just told or parents and bridal party about the registry and word spread from them. Most weddings I’ve been to have registries.
Post # 10
We had one at Wedding Gifts Direct – its sort of expected amongst the people we know. They complained that there wasn’t enough on there! Those people gave cash in envelopes on the day. I certainly don’t think you’ll offend anyone by having one, maybe in America, but not here 🙂
Post # 11
We ‘re thinking of using a free online registry where you can give guests ideas, being as specific or non-specific as you like.
For example- blue cushions, or a certain model of iron etc.
When I give a gift, I love to catch something on sale that is worth a lot more than I would usually spend, and you don’t really get this chance with store registry or wishing wells.
Post # 12
I think gift registeries are perfectly fine, and will be having one 🙂 I have been to a wedding where there was a wishing well at the venue for helping their honeymoon
Post # 13
I have been to 5 weddings this year, 3 in QLD, 1 in VIC and 1 in NSW, all were with the same group of friends though and none did registries that I know of. We just gave money for all of them because we knew that all the people getting married had been living together for a while already.
I think a registry would be good though, Myer is pretty good, from what I understand anything that isn’t bought off the registry can be bought after the wedding by you guys at a discounted price…
Post # 14
I dont think it is a sensitive issue anymore… most people do live together before marriage and are set up with everything they need. I have had friends do a registry for an item they really want (new mattress, coffee machine) and others ask for cash, or honeymoon registry.
We personally are doing a honeymoon registry and I have no issues with putting a tiny card in the invite that says “If you wish to provide us a gift, we would love it if you would contribute to our honeymoon registry”
Post # 15
Gift registries are totally acceptable if anything they are actually encouraged by my wedding guests as it makes things so much easier for them. Also I have been to a few weddings the ones with the registry option makes it easier to get a nice wanted gift in your budget, I don’t really like wishinwells as a university student I also feel stingy with thamounting of cash I can afford to give
Post # 16
Also forgot to mention that I’m having two registries so that my guests have a choice where thy go to. Was doing David jones and Victoria’s basement, but VB was just too difficult I found to organise so now it’s myer and David jones