AUSSIE BEES! Non-Catholic seeking advice for first contact with the church

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  • Wedding: September 2014

@ksus07:  Hi ksus… oh gosh you sound EXACTLY like me!!!  Freaky.  Thought you were talking about ME for a while there…




I’m pretty much in the exact situation…


1. I was brought up in a Baptist church (they dedicate their babies not Christen), done full water immersion as an adult but through a pentecostal church (plus I haven’t attended church for quite a few months)


2. FI is Catholic


3. We want to get married in a Catholic church


4. Process is working out to be a lot harder than expected!


— SO!  What I’ve done so far / can suggest…


First off, take a Sunday and drive around to some options – stick your head in and have a look.  FI and I didn’t sit through any masses we just got there early as people were going in.  I often picked up a church bulletin which gave the contact details of the churches office.  If you find one you like then just call the office during business hours and speak to them.  Some I found were a bit short with me.  Because we are non-parishoners they MAY have their priest marry us or some just flatly refuse and say that they will provide us with a list of priests that we would need to call and we effectively ‘hire’ them to marry us on our date.


Heres the catch, being in Sydney FI and I have found most Churches want to charge us a set fee for the use of the church and THEN the priest will need to be added to that of the person we have to find off the list.  This will cost us approx $800 for church and probably about $400 for priest from what we have been told. (we have just gotten used to the idea that this will cost us more than we expected but considering we don’t tithe very well I’m not going to get upset over it)


We are currently at the stage of we have booked to go and speak to the office lady of the church we really like here in Sydney.  I think once we speak to her and she susses us out she will let us know what is expected / give us the list of priests etc.


FI has already started the process of contacting the church he was christened in for his ‘baptismal certificate’ which I am told he will need being the Catholic half of us.


I’ll let you know how I go but I do hope this is somewhat helpful.  Unfortunately you just gotta get on the phone of the ones you like and call them and ask about $$$ / your wedding date & desired time / and book in to meet with them.


I’d also explain that you are interstate and you would really love the priest of that actual Catholic church to marry you if at all possible.  We had one lady on the phone who sounded like the priest would be willing but unfortunately when we drove there it just seemed too far away from our reception venue for our guests to be expected to drive! 


So my main advice…do the driving / sticky beak first then call!


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