- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
So… I’m about to try and sort out one of the major things on my to-do list – which is get in contact with the church for our ceremony. Just for your info, my fiance is Catholic, and I am not (I have not been baptised/initiated into any other religion, although I do believe in God and respect my fiance’s wishes to be married in a church/baptise our future children, etc. We’ve discussed it thoroughly and it’s all good.)
We’re having a destination wedding which is interstate from where we live, and I have already booked our date at the Catholic church there, but need to provide some paperwork. One of the things they asked for was a letter of permission to marry outside our local parish.
As my fiance works out of town, it’s kinda up to me to get the ball rolling. So I need to contact the local church where we live to get this letter and begin the process of the other marriage-related paperwork. I just wasn’t sure how to go about it? My fiance hasn’t attended church since he was a kid and we have never been in contact or involved with the local Catholic parish… It just seems “rude” (for want of a better word) to contact them about getting married if we aren’t “real” parishoners… Or do lots of people end up doing this?
I was also told we may need to attend a pre-marriage course/counselling – the issue is that the only place where we live that facilitates this is where I worked for 7 years until recently! I think I’d feel uncomfortable discussing such private info about my personal life with a former co-worker. And even if it wasn’t someone I knew, like a new worker, I would still feel weird about it.
Ugh, just so much I’m not sure of and I don’t know where to start with my initial phone call. Any advice on things that might be useful/handy to know? How did you start the process with your church, and were you in contact with them already as parishioners, or did you just “phone up” when you were ready to get married?
And as you can see I’ve put this with attention to the Aussies out there, as I think things can differ depending on what country you live in – just want to get the best info I can before I check it all out for myself. Thanks & cheers, and sorry for the lengthy read.