(Closed) Average Cost of BM Dress? / Unhappy sister…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How much did your BM dresses cost?
    $50-$100 : (25 votes)
    19 %
    $100-$150 : (54 votes)
    40 %
    $150-$200 : (43 votes)
    32 %
    $200-$250 : (13 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @StuporDuck:  It’s the cost of many of the dresses at David’s which (IMO) is sort of the industry standard for reasonably priced.  I don’t think that’s a small amount to pay for a dress, just that you need to try hard to have a palette of colors to pick from at a cheaper price.  If yu need to do cheaper than a-hundred-and-something, you almost need to find a non-wedding off-the-rack dress in your color of choice.

    FWIW, my BM dresses cost more than any of your choices b/c I wanted locally made and silk, but I offered to buy them since I didn’t want my wedding to be a financial burden on my friends.

    Post # 4
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    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    It’s not too bad.  I think it depends on where you live though.  I was a bridesmaid (was “kicked out”..long story) in my friend’s fall wedding this year, and she picked out bridesmaid dresses that were $300 + alternations!  And we live in a small town.  So needless to say, $180 to me is on the lucky side, haha.  Another friend had her dresses cost about $130.  I think anywhere from 100-200 (being on the higher side) is reasonable.

    If she has money troubles, could you pitch in say $50 to help offset the cost? 

    Post # 5
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    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My first question is whether your sister is going to be MOH. If so, she could wear a different dress to set her apart. Another bee on here did that and it looked aweome. (I could try to track down her post if you want.) She could maybe find a dress in her price range. Consignment store, thrift shops, and discount racks at bridal store would all be possibilities.

    If she isn’t going to be your MOH hmm…. I would pull her aside and really sympathize with what she is going through. Imaginary conversation: “Jill I feel so terrible about what you are going through right now. I can’t even imagine how much you must be hurting. I know how much I would be hurting if I was in your place. I feel so bad about starting my life with the man of my dreams when you are going through this in your marriage. I don’t want you to ever feel like I am rubbing your face in my happiness. I want us both to be deliriously happy. I wish I could fix your marriage for you. Your my sister and I love you. I don’t want to put any additional stress on you right now. I know being in a wedding is very costly and stressful and if it is more than you can handle I understand. I want you and (neice) in my wedding but really I will understand if you want to decline. Of course you will still be in many of my wedding pics because you are family. *hugs*

    Honestly I paid $160+ for BM dresses I have worn in the past and they were butt ugly. Last wedding I was a MOH my dress was a $400 medival costume. So no yours a pretty average.

     I am just picking a color (navy) and letting my girls pick their own.  This way they can find something cheaper or something they can wear again. I have seen this done and I like the look. I may choose a fabric too so they match better.

    Good luck! Hope I helped.

    Post # 6
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    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

    If your dress is one of the major labels, have you checked w/ Pearl’s Place?  They will beat any price you give them.  They gave me an incredible deal that made it a lot easier for my BMs.

    Post # 8
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    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @StuporDuck: That is funny! I honestly didn’y know what to say and when I started replying no one else had posted, it was late, so I felt I had to offer some encouragement. I prayed for you both and that is what popped into my head. Really really weird!

    Post # 9
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    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve been a BM twice, and both times I paid around $250 for the dress and $50 for alterations, and neither dress was re-wearable or very elaborate!

    For my girls we pick out lovely Jim Hjelm dresses that retailed for $240-$300, however we bought them online at halfbridal.com.  Halfbridal was great to work with, and they are a licensed seller of quite a few different brands, however they can’t list their prices online or in email due to restrictions with the designers, so just call and talk to them!

     

    Post # 10
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have been in 10 weddings (yes pathetic I know lol finally getting my own day lol) and I paid a minimum of $200 for each (one was $500 that was crazy) so I would love to pay $180 lol but maybe dresses are cheaper in the states?

    Post # 11
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Every BM dress I have ever had to purchase was $150+ (usually closer to $200-50). I have always felt it was too much to be spent on a dress that will literally never be worn again. In general ‘bridesmaids’ dresses are WAY overpriced — there are lots of dresses on the market that would work as BM dresses but aren’t slated as such.

    The general cost of BM dresses is the main factor why I am probably going to politely refuse to ever be a BM again. For real. It’s not that I can’t afford it, I just think it is a bit of a waste.

    Post # 12
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    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I honestly can not find one dress i like that is under 170… the dress I really wanted was 300 but I thought that was too much. and we dont come from money (nor do my bms) and I thought 170 was a great price. Luckly none of them have complained yet!

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @secondchances: Oooh, nice way of putting that! 

    OP: I think having that conversation with your sister will smooth a lot of ruffled feathers. I would also try to think of her as being sad and acting out rather than being bitter and jealous. I’m sure you know how rough this is on her, and a little perspective shift will go a long way! 

    Post # 14
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    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Did you discuss a price point with your girls before picking out the dress? Most of my girls aren’t well off financially right now and one is planning her own wedding so I tried very hard to find good deals for them. I didn’t want matching dresses, just the same designer, fabric, color and length. That helped a lot. They were able to get dresses on David’s online clearance section. The most expensive was $99, the least expensive was $50. I know it’s probably hard if you have your heart set on a certain dress. I’d ask your sister what she’s comfortable spending and see if you can come to a compromise (maybe you pay the difference for her?)

    Post # 15
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    3620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My girls wore $70 convertible dresses from Victoria’s Secret. They came within a week!

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