Post # 1
I’m meeting with the restaraunt where I am having my rehearsal dinner and I am curious to find out what everyone else paid for their dinner. Granted, some of you may have had more, some less so MINUS gratuity and taxes – what did you end up spending per person and did that include things like alcohol? Were you happy with the value? How long did the party last? I want to know what to expect. Did any of you who had it at a restaruant have the “rehearsal” on site as well and have muchies for your guests upon arrival? Chat with me ladies!?
Post # 3
We are renting out a restaurant as the small town we are getting married in doesn’t boast many places with private rooms or function spaces. Because of that, our price is a little higher than we would like.
We were quoted at $2041.50 (estimated without beverages). Break down for 45 guests (max):
Person Cost – $30
Menu Total – $1350
Beverage Cost – TBD
Room Charge – $250
Cake Cutting Fee – $50
Gratuity 20% – $270
Food Tax 9% – $121.50
We think it will be around $2700.00 after drinks are included (maybe more if people get rowdy but we are limited the bar to beer and wine only).
Our menu has 3 appetizer options and 4 entree options (plus vegan upon request). We are bringing the groom’s cake so that reduced our per person cost (and we just have to pay the cake cutting fee). I figured this all out last Friday, so it’s top of mind. I hope all this helps! 🙂
Post # 4
Our top choice place (need to clear with FI parents) will avg. about $60 pp for dinner. Not sure on the drink front yet. I only want parents/grents and wedding party there, but probably will have eto invite some OOT people and it will soar to 75 people (ugh!).
Post # 5
We had ours at a local resaurant. 12/person not including alcohol. We had our rehearsal off site at our ceremony location. We spent 4 hours at the dinner – mostly because of out of towners on my side of the family I had not seen in 10+ years.
Our dinner was seated – choice of 3 meats, 4 veggies, 2 starches and 2 desserts. Alcohol was available as cash payment. We had one chef and 3 servers. And 30 people in attendance.
Post # 6
We had about 35?ish people and with drinks and a big family style Italian meal at a casual Italian restaurant, it came to around $1350 prior to tip, (so around $38 pp) which is a steal to me and there was SO. MUCH. FOOD.
Look into family style Italian meals, seriously. Saved me a bundle!
Post # 7
We are inviting ~55 people, and the restaurant where we’re hosting our rehearsal dinner felt bad that my FI and I are paying for the rehearsal dinner ourselves, so instead of charging us for the dinner menu, they’re allowing us to order the lunch menu instead, which is $27/person. It includes salad, entree, and dessert, and the entree is Brazilian steak, so I think $27/person is a great deal. They are throwing in soft drinks for free, which is saving us $3/person. There is a 16% graduity and 6% service charge, so they quoted us a total of $1941 for 55 people.
I should mention that we’re not serving alcohol – we couldn’t afford it, and we are happy to let our guests order beer or wine on their on dime if they need to drink. We’re trying to discourage drinking the night of the wedding. We just went to a wedding last weekend where the rehearsal dinner had an open bar, and everyone was super hung over the next day. It was a big bummer.
Post # 8
I forgot to mention, we’re having the rehearsal dinner at a nice restaurant in a pretty area where there’s an artificial river for people to walk around and some bars and shopping, we thought it would be a good location for our out-of-town guests if they wanted to do something afterwards – but it is ~20 minutes from the rehearsal location (i.e. our venue).
Post # 9
FI’s parents have graciously offered to host the rehearsal dinner.
It will be at a restaurant and we’ll be ordering off the regular menu. I’m guessing around $15 to $20 per person. There will be twenty of us at the most.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We paid $30 per person for a 3 course meal and all of the drinks we had (we paid on consumption). We had 3 choices for each course, and had to let the restaurant know 7 days ahead of time how many we needed of each selection. The rehearsal dinner was at a nice, but casual, waterfront restaurant, and we got to sit on the deck and enjoy ourselves for as long as we wanted to. Honestly, the RD was one of the best deals I got for the entire wedding. It was a steal!
Post # 11
We were quoted $385 for 25 guests. Private banquet room at a nice korean restaurant. With this we get appetizers, salad, 5 meat dishes, 2 noodle dishes, and sodas. This breaks down to about $15/pp. We had our engagement lunch/surprise announcement there also, and everyone loved it. Super affordable and really nice.
Post # 12
We’re having our RD at our house so no pp costs. Just getting enough food to feed about 20-30 people. Hoping to spend less than $100.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We had ours in the party room of a new bar/restaurant, and our total bill was under $700 for around 25 people, with drinks and party trays of appetizers (shrimp cocktail, fruit & cheese).
Post # 14
We landed around $650 for the food and another $200 for the bar, for 30 people. It was extremely reasonable.
Post # 15
We went with a restaurant that let us choose a limited menu. People could order whatever they wanted, plus 2 drinks, plus we provided appetizers. I think the total cost was between $500-600 for around 25ish people.
Post # 16
Not including tax and gratuity, it’ll be approximately $75 a person.