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I read that 2.5 years of dating is considered by some experts (psychologists, I imagine, though I don't have the article in front of me right now) before becoming engaged. I feel that's about when people expect it, without getting the "wow that was fast" or the "about damn time" reaction. Of course, it's a highly personal thing and varies widely by different couples, so there isn't always a reason to compare oneself to these arbitrary standards! For what it's worth, FI and I had been together for 2 years and 9 months when he proposed.
I don't know the actualy average, but I do know me and my boy have been together 5 and a half years!
I really think it depends on the couple. For example, we started discussing marriage 6 months into our relationship, and were engaged after we had been dating a total of 1 year and 2 months.
We were together exactly (well, not to the day) 2.5 years when he proposed. It was a total surprise!
I don't think there is an average amount of time - I think it definitely differs from couple to couple. We got engaged at about 3.5 years together, and we'll get married a little more than 5 years together - but we waited because we started dating when I was 19 and he was 21 and ours lives were still so uncertain - now was just the right time for us! But we know people who started dating 2 years after us and are getting married the day before - so, no right answer!
I think it depends on the couple. I also think it depends on the age of the couple. I'm an 'older' bride and at 29, there is no way I'd be waiting around 5 years without wedding bells! We were together 10 months when we got engaged~that was perfect for us! We had both dated A LOT and knew what we wanted and didn't want...
We were 2 1/2 years (my FH claims it would have been earlier, but he was still in school when we met - he proposed about 6 months after finishing school)
he proposed on our 10 year anniversary. But we are high school sweethearts so i know thats not really "average". Hmm, i'd say from my friends experiences, 3-4 years. However, no rhyme or reason to these things :)
We dated 2 years 8 months before he proposed. I wasn't desperate to get engaged though, so I wasn't itching for a ring.
That is a very good question! And I won't say 'it depends' b/c I know that's not the answer you are probably looking for. Maybe you can add a poll? My guess would be 2.5-3 years is the average amount of time. FI and I dated 1.5 years before gettting engaged.
I wish I could say Im engaged but Im not... :(
BF and I are coming up on our 5 yr anniversary in April
I remember a while ago that they had a similar thread like this that had a lot of responses. At the time, I tallied the responses and came up with this conclusion:
Alot people were in engaged by the 2 year mark. The next highest responses came from those that didn't get engaged until at least the 5 year mark.
We were together for 4 years and 9 months before we got engaged - the first year and a half was long distance, then a year of living in the same city in separate apartments, and then we bought a place and moved in together after that...
We were engaged at about 2 years 9 months. But we started talking about marriage at 6 months, it just wasn't the right time for us (still in college, no career job yet, etc.) so we agreed to wait a couple of years. On the other hand, my FSIL and her (now) husband are older than us, and more established in their careers, but they didn't get engaged until about thier 5 1/2 year mark (and it's not like they were living together, either!) So I think it really depends upon the couple and I don't think it helps to compare yourself to others!
We had a long engagement, and it has been so disappointing to watch a lot of people I know get engaged & married during our engagement!
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Hi Busy Bees! Wanted to know what you think is the average time many women wait for a proposal. Or maybe your own experience. Thanks!