Avoiding a blowup: elope or … ?? HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you should get a great dress, elope, and have some beautiful pictures taken to share when the time comes. Good for you for picking your education instead of wedding money. A wedding is a few hours. Your education is an investment. I thought seriously about eloping due to a lack of money, pressure for everything to be nicer than I can afford (even simple stuff is expensive), the depressing fact that most of my family won’t be coming (my dad died three years ago, which I am still having a really hard time with, and most of my family lives across the country and cannot afford to travel). But my fiance is an only child and said it would really hurt his mom if we eloped, etc. Sigh. 🙁

Post # 3
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

But by all means, enjoy your time with your bf and when your engagement happens, enjoy that for a bit. Put the wedding on the backburner for a little while:)

Post # 4
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7834 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why should your family be excluded from your wedding because of your FMIL? Plan a small wedding with immediate families only. 

This might depend on your parents’ feelings, but as a mother myself, I would be hurt to miss any of my children’s weddings (but wouldn’t care about missing other relatives’ weddings, e.g. my nieces). Your FMIL will be upset either way (small wedding or elopement) but I bet your family (and perhaps the some of FI’s) will be much happier with a small wedding.

Post # 5
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have a destination wedding invite 50 – 60 of your closest family and friends on both sides and you will most likely come in at a way lower guest list (that is half the price too btw) 

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