Avoiding Faux Pas in Second Round of Invites

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

My fiancé didn’t invite his coworker friends at first because his parents added so many people to our list. He told them he would invite them if we ended up having room, which we do. Nobody was offended and they’re happy to come. I don’t think it’s a big deal to just explain the situation to them and be honest! 

Post # 4
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42490 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@marie_antoinette:  I think most prople understand that almost all couples have to deal with budget and venue constraints. Just send the the invitation.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@marie_antoinette:  This really is a “know your audience” situation. It is bad form to B list people. And of course every bride here says “no one was offended” well… duh they wouldn’t tell you if they were! So you just have to know your audience. Will these people be excited to be invited? Or are they the type to judge? If you do send an invite, preface it with a call.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@marie_antoinette:  If you’re over there all the time, I’m sure wedding talk has come up and discussion regarding limited space may have come up by now.  I think if you could just have an honest and light hearted conversation with the family and explain the situation and give them an invite in person, it should smooth everything over and put a different spin on what could be an awkward situation

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

“Due to strict space restrictions, FI and I were unable to invite everyone we wanted to.  We now know that much of my extended family won’t be able to travel for the wedding.  We’ve had you in mind to invite if space opened up.  I understand if its late notice, but we would really like to have you there.” 


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