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Hmmm . . . to get around this you need to inflict the burden on the party requesting the kiss. you could make cute signs saying that if the guests want the bride and groom to kiss, they need to get up and tell a joke, or do something else to embarrass themselves. I don't like this tradition either. I found this article as well:
http://www.darrenbarefoot.com/archives/2005/09/making-the-bride-and-groom-kiss.html
I don't remember if it was here or another site but a bride made little signs for each table with a poem about not clinking glasses. Instead couples had to come to the dancefloor and kiss to get the bride and groom to kiss. I might copy this idea. I don't mind the kissing but the clinking is annoying.
Yeah, if you have signs telling people they actually have to make an effort to do something in order to get you to kiss, they'll be less likely to do it!
At a friends wedding, we got super annoyed by the guests clinking glasses, so I kissed another bridesmaids when the glasses were clinked, then 2 groomsmen threatened to kiss - people stopped!
You know, I've been to a couple of weddings recently and there wasn't any glass clinking at all! I didn't notice anything posted, either. I kind of assumed it was just a dying tradition.
At my best friend's wedding, the DJ announced that instead of clinking glasses, if people wanted to see the bride and groom kiss, those people had to get their table or a group of at least 6 people together and sing a verse of a song that has the word "love" in it. It was fun. The kids table (aided and abetted by adults at a table nearby) stood and sang "If you're in love and you know it... clap your hands." The bride's father's table did "You Give Love a Bad Name." There were about ten tables, but probably only four or five songs. It ended up veing very cute and funny, but didn't go on forever.
I think I once heard a story about how the clinkers were made to kiss one another...
I don't really like this tradition either. I was at a wedding where people were clinking their glasses like every 5 minutes. Very annoying!
My FI doesn't like the idea of kissing to clinking glasses either.
I went to a wedding this past summer where the bride included a list of ways to make the bride and groom kiss. This list was in a booklet that contained the menu, thank yous, and other information (almost like a program for the reception).
Activities from the list included:
-get everyone from your table to participate in a dance (electric slide, macarena, etc)
-share a story/memory about the bride and groom
-sing a song
-tell a joke
There were many more, all equally creative and fun, but I can't remember them at this time. I'll have to look for the list! SO many people were doing the activities, which made it fun for the bride and groom, as well as the guests!
I loved it so much that I am going to do the same thing for my wedding.
At my best friend's wedding, she gave the DJ a list of married couples who would be in attendance. The first time the glasses were clinked, the bride and groom kissed. The second time, the DJ called out the names of the first couple on the list and so on. It was cute, kept the attention off the bride and groom, and it died down really quickly. Just a thought!
We had a poem for our wedding - but you have to make sure the DJ still announces it. We put signs on every table, but not every one pays attention!
Would you be willing to share your poem? Our DJ/Band could announce this as well, but a poem is a cute idea for those that arrive late or are out during the announcement!
I've never actually seen this tradition in practice but one version that I heard about is the couple asked people to make a donation to a charity and then ring the bell by the box that held the charity money in order to get the couple to kiss. I thought that was a cute idea.
I'm hoping that our cocktail reception will keep that from happening. There won't be many utensils available to make the "clinging" noise on the glass. And the DJ will be getting the party started shortly after the grand entrance.
I threatened my family and friends will all plastic wear if they wanted to clink all night long. Thankfully there was not much clinking at my wedding. And a couple of times they were clinking either me or my husband had gone to the bathroom! Lol. I really like some of these other ideas, I wish I would have heard about it before my wedding!
I've seen people use little bells before. Although I'm partial to the bride and groom kissing other people.
haha, my fiance was so against it too. I didn't really care. In the end we didnt have other options really. We had handed out bells for our exit from the church and I saw some people were using those at the dinner. But generally people used the glasses instead because they were louder.
It wasn't that bad in the end, kissing my husband in front of everyone! I'd say we had to kiss 4 or 5 times throughout dinner. Then on the 6th time we pointed to our parents and made them kiss. After that it calmed down a little because I don't think people wanted us to point to them next.
My fiance hates the clinking of glasses too. He's theory is that if we ignore it enough times, it'll stop. Hopefully he's right!
I'm with your fiance in that I don't see the point behind the practice. Maybe I have weird family and friends, but I have never once seen or heard of this being done in real life. My fiance has never heard of it either. If someone clinks their glasses with their silverware, which is not classy to begin with but to each their own, you can ignore them and they will get the hint. I don't get the idea of the whole thing because you shouldn't be forced by your guests to do something that should and will come natural. Yes you may be separated for the majority of the reception which makes kissing on demand impractical or eating at the time, but you are not required to cater to those particular whimsof your guests. And to demand a couple to kiss is rude, period.
I've seen this done at every single wedding I've been to. Maybe it's a regional thing. But family and friends expect it. From my experience, they will just keep clinking louder and louder until you kiss. So you just kiss to get them to stop.
It's not that bad in the end. I've been to weddings where the bridal party had judging signs. Like the numbers 1-10 on different signs. Then they held up whatever number they thought the couple should get for a score for their kiss. It was kind of funny and different.
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OK, for some reason my FI hates the idea of people clinking glasses (or ringing bells) to get us to kiss. I personally do not care. He wants to just tell people they aren't allowed but I think we need to give them another option. I need some creative ideas here... I know you all are great at this!!! Thanks!!