- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
Backstory: FI got laid off and because he was considered an independent contractor through the company he worked for (all employees were), they didn’t recieve unemployment when the layoffs started. Therefore, we didn’t have much money for gifts. His will be small this year (pj pants, a TX Longhorns Tee, and a thick fleece blanket made by me since he’s always cold) but they were gifts I had gotten and/or started before he got laid off. I paid the rent and all the bills while he was laid off, along with all gas and groceries and fun things…although sometimes it was a little tight. I’m not asking for any of that back since we are getting married too and when I have our kids and have time off it will also be a little tight I’m sure but that depends on how much PTO I save up before that happens too. We won’t be trying until after the wedding in October anyways 🙂 Last year, the same thing happened around this time so I didn’t get an anniversary present (which I was okay with) and we went out to dinner….for my birthday present he got me a freshwater pearl necklace (that I will be wearing on our wedding day) and for Christmas he got me some white topaz earrings and a pair of freshwater pearl earrings to match the necklace.
Anyways, so we had talked a little about ideas in November since he had gotten news he got a new job (and loves it now by the way!!!). I gave him a couple ideas and threw it out there that since I wanted two bands (one on each side of the e-ring), that would be an option and just throw out the idea of birthday, Christmas and Anniversary gifts (my birthday = 12/18, then it’s Christmas, and our dating anniversary is 1/22). At first he was unsure of it before I said to throw out ideas of all gifts – he thought I meant the band for just one of those. I know what the band costs so I didn’t want to have it be for just one event! I explained a little more, and since we have a credit card with Wedding Day Jewelers and it would be paid off by the time the 6 or 12 month interest period was up I don’t care if it is on there…..and that it’s not like he would have to pay it all by cash or something up front because of that. I told him to just think about it, or to go with the other ideas I had given him. Either of which I would have loved.
Also, I told him what his wedding gift so far was costing and he was shocked. I didn’t tell him exactly what I’m doing, just gave him an estimated price. I am going to do boudoir pics, have been writing in a journal every once in a while since the day we got engaged (little letters about why I love him and what makes me fall in love with him all over and over again), a “Beer cake” (compliments of pinterest) for him and the boys to drink either the night before and/or combination of that and the morning of topped with a bottle of his favorite whiskey.
I woke up this morning, and gave him his part of the Christmas present (which I felt bad because I couldn’t give him everything I wanted to), and told him I already had ideas for anniversary in January (I make a shutterfly book every year with our pictures and things about why I love him which is already ordered, and was going to do the walking dead season 3 and something else)…..to which he replied with “I thought we had discussed not getting gifts for this year and just doing a big one on or around our wedding day and honeymoon time.” Which we did, since the wedding would be a big cost, we had discussed not getting much for birthday and whatnot this year. I told him yes we did but the conversation had never went further than that. To which he replied “Well, I have thought about it and decided to get you that other wedding band for all of them this year. You just won’t recieve it until next fall when you become my wife.” I got tears in my eyes, told him I loved him and just gave him a hug.
So I didn’t get anything at this present time, but the fact that he decided that since he knows I wanted my ring(s) to look even with one band on each side of the engagement ring, etc and knew I would think about it constantly means so much more to me than any other thing I could have gotten. I can wait a little less than a year to get it 🙂