- 2 years ago
So I’m getting married this summer and today I went dress shopping for the first time. I found a place in town that sells the dress right off the rack (all different sizes and different designers, at a discount).
Some background: as a teenager/kid I was a ballet dancer- I’m 5’2″ and at the time that I was dancing full-time I weighed around 98-103 pounds. Fast forward to now, I’m the same height but I weigh about 114-120. I know I don’t look the same, but I have always been pretty confident in my looks-I’m much curvier in the boob/bum area than I was when I was dancing.
I also have about 2 feet of scar tissue on my body from some terrible surgeries- I’ve even come to terms with that, and I knew that it would show in the dresses. Fine, I can deal.
I also knew that wedding dress sizes are larger than standard dress sizes, but I was totally unprepared nontheless. In standard sizes I’m around a 0 or 2- so I figured I’d be a 4-6, maybe an 8- fine. Well, not at this shop.
I tried everything, and I mean everything. I couldn’t even zip up the largest size they carried (12). Like, not even close. One other girl was trying dresses on, she looked about a street size 10 (I worked retail for years, so I can tell sizes pretty well by sight), and she left after about 15 minutes in the shop. Well now I know why.
I know I have some body image issues from the whole ballet scene and all the scars and surgery, which doesn’t help- but it was just really emotional for some reason. I feel so stupid because I’m sure there are a million plus sized ladies out there who experience this every time they go shopping, and if you’re reading this and rolling your eyes- I totally understand how petty this probably sounds.
I’m just not sure what to do now. Has this happened to anyone else? I just feel like I knew I had a limited budget, and I came to terms with that. I knew that my awful scars would show all over the place, and I came to terms with that. I didn’t think on top of it all I wouldn’t even be able to fit a single dress.
I just feel like I’m really not that big, my waist is around 26 inches and my bust is a 34C, my hips are around 34 inches- I can’t imagine how it is for (street size) plus sized ladies if it was like this for me.
I guess this is just a vent, I just don’t know where to go from here. I don’t even want to go to any other shops now. So, I don’t know what I’m looking for- encouragment? Any words of wisdom? Have other bees had this happen? Was this store just really weird?
I just didn’t think this, on top of everything else, would be an issue.
Arrrgghhh- that’s enough complaining from me, thanks bees for listening, sorry for being such a whiner.