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Im so sorry, this is awful and so horrible that its so close to your wedding. My grandmothers funeral was the day before my cousin wedding and i know how difficult this can be on the family. I hope everything works out well for you and remember to enjoy your day even though you are, of course, sad about her death. *lots of hugs our way*
Ohhh, honey. I'm so sorry. It's always terrible to lose a grandma, especially so close to your wedding day. I know she would have loved to be there, and will be, in spirit.
I've thought about ways to honor my grandmas at my wedding. Although they died many years ago, I was close to them and miss them especially as I get married because I can imagine how happy they would have been and how much they would have enjoyed the day.
Some things that I thought of are, as you say, a nice table with pictures, candles, flowers. (I don't think it would be too sad for guests -- I imagine they'd be happy to see it.) You could include photos of her as a girl or her wedding photo as well as photos from later in life, if available.
Also, wear something of hers: a piece of jewelry or carry her handkerchief. Something to keep her near you. I'm thinking of baking cookies using our grandmas' favorite recipes for our RD or out-of town bags. I'd include the recipe plus a note explaining that it's in memory of her.
Are your programs already printed? If not, you might want to include a dedication (or even add one on a printed label), or just mention her in the ceremony or speeches at the reception.
I'm very sorry for your loss, but if there's one thing I know about grandmas, they stay with you very strongly even when they're gone. Have a beautiful wedding, and enjoy both the happy and bittersweet moments.
I'm so sorry! I would definitely something "in remembrance" at the wedding - a candle or bouquet of flowers up front perhaps.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard this is on you, especially so close to your wedding. I think your idea about putting a picture of her at the entrance is wonderful. I have also heard of people leaving a chair empty and putting a flower on it to designate what would have been her spot, although with her passing being so recent, that may be too difficult for you to handle. Do what feels right for you. Once again, I am so sorry.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know it's a tough time with very mixed emotions... try to experience whatever joy you can surrounding your wedding, but of course don't feel obligated to feel one way or the other; it's a very happy/sad time right now.
As far as honoring her, do whatever you think is best, or maybe ask your mom for ideas if she's up to it. I think a picture right at the entrance might be too much for some considering the loss is so recent (but you know best for your family). I think maybe you could have a chair for her with flowers on it or, if that's too much, maybe display a portrait of her near the cake or near where the ceremony is held. Did she have a favorite flower you could incorporate into your bouquet?
Im so sorry to hear that!! Maybe you can have the officiant add something short into your ceremony about her. Try your best to enjoy your wedding day and know she will be with you and she is no longer suffering.
I really have no words. I am very sorry for your loss.
One thing to remember, and please don't think this is awful of me to say - but just try and enjoy your wedding day as much as possible - as I'm sure your grandmother would want nothing but happiness on your wedding day.
I love the idea of wearing something of hers. Both of my grandmothers (and grandfathers) passed years ago - but I was close to them and am doing the pictures of their weddings on our guestbook table. I also have a strand of my maternal grandmother's pearls I will wrap around my bouquet.
I wish you all the love on your wedding day and sending you (((hugs))).
(((Hugs))) I'm sorry for your loss. You have received some excellent suggestions. Just go ahead with what gives you the most comfort in remembering a special lady.
I'm so sorry for the loss- the loss of a grandparent is one of the saddest things in life whether its expected or not. As for remembering her- I second the wearing a piece of her jewelry. Also maybe have a locket with her picture on it on your bouquet.. My mom's father died almost 5 years ago and when my mom remarried 2 years ago she put her bouquet on his grave the following day- That might be a thought if you're not planning on saving it..
my grandma and i are close so i attached her wedding photo to my bouquet, since i wanted my something old to be something from her wedding dy, but she didnt have ant mementos. So sorry to hear about your grandma!!!
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i'm so sorry for your loss!!! I agree with many of the other suggestions- I think a bouquet of flowers on her chair would be a really nice gesture. But I also agree- try to enjoy your day as much as possible. I am sure that would be what she would have wanted.
I'm so sorry about your loss. I would suggest a bouquet charm or maybe a piece of her jewelry to make you have her there for your wedding?
I'm so sorry.
I think the idea of including a recipe of hers, or something you know she loved, in the welcome bags or something like that would be a nice idea.
At my grandfather's funeral, we gave everyone a Hershey bar and drank his favorite beer (the only beer he'd drink), since those were 2 of his favorite things. It was a way to remember him that made people smile in the middle of the sadness.
Awww...so sorry. This happened to my cousin...my Aunt died 3 days before her daughter's wedding. We had the funeral and luncheon the day before the wedding, and they had the rehearsal and dinner that night.
It was hard to get through the wedding day, but something they just had to do. One thing they did forget about was to tell the band not to play the songs the bride's Grandmother had requested be played,so when the first one started,there were lots of tears. :(
They also had a table display of all family wedding pictures they could gather,but in front of my Aunt's picture they had a candle burning and a white rose placed. It was nice.
Best of luck to you on your wedding day!
I like the bouquet charm idea. That reminds me: my grandmas each had a favorite flower (calla lillies for one and gardenias for the other). I never see those flowers without thinking of them. Did your grandma have a special flower (perhaps what she carried in her bridal bouquet)? Is it too late to incorporate a few stems of that into your bouquet?
I'm so sorry about your grandma. I lost one of my grandmas last month.
I say add something to your bouquet. Since the funeral is the next day, it might be a little much to have her picture up. A litte much as others becoming even more sad.
I like jadeblue's idea of her favorite flowers too.
I'm sorry sweetheart, the bouquet is a beautiful tribute to your grandma.
My thought and prayers are with you and your family during this bittersweet time.
Im so sorry Danielle. I cant add anything the others havent already except I know what a difficult time this must be for you . But I believe your grandmother would want you to have a wonderful wedding and she will be smiling down on you. God Bless you and congratulations
I am so sorry. My mom died 1 month to the day before my daughter's wedding. They wore the same size shoes, so my daughter chose to wear a pair of my mom's shoes. It was nice to have all our family members present at the wedding. That was very healing. I felt my mom's spiritual presence that day, and though bittersweet, it was nice to have her present, and not sick or suffering. I think the photo might be too much with her passing being so close to your wedding, but I think you might like to choose something of hers to have with you, whether it is her favorite flower in your bouquet, a piece of jewelry, a handkerchief, or her shoes. Again, I am very sorry.
I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how hard this must be. (((hugs)))
I'm so sorry hon. My grandmother passed away last summer and I still miss her every day. To honour her, I'm including her favourite flower (roses) in my bouquet, and also having a locket with her photo attached to my bouquet. I'm giving my bouquet to my FMIL (without the locket), and taking one rose out to bring to my grandmother's grave the day after the wedding. Maybe you could save your bouquet for the funeral? Big hugs sweetie.
Oh my goodness, I'm so very sorry for your loss! My grandma is the same age so this really hit home for me and my heart hurts for you and your family!
As far as honoring her at your wedding everyone else already gave you some great ideas. I would see if there's a special piece of jewelry of hers that you can wear that will make her feel close to you and maybe even having a bouquet charm so she can be close to you throughout the day.
thank you so much bees! you all gave me some wonderful ideas and such encouraging words. some of you bees have done some really nice things to remember people by. Unfortunatly my grandmother lives in another state and it is too close to the wedding to ask anyone from there to bring me something...some are not even able to make the ceremony due to the circumstances.
Yesterday was a very hard day and i woke up exhausted this morning...just knowing that i had to do it all over again. all the planning and last minute stuff and running around and meetings all when i just wanted to be at home with my family talking about my grandmother. and tomorrow is going to be exactly the same...i am just not having fun anymore and i am very sad and upset about it. i am sad that i lost my grandmother, i am sad that some family cant come now, i am sad that i am exhausted and tired, i am sad that i am even thinking about the wedding when i should be morning my grandmothers passing, and i am sad that i am so sad two days before my wedding...
i know my day will be wonderful but i know i will also have an awful feeling of guilt during it. i feel guilty just talking about it. i just dont know what to think or feel. i feel guilty thinking aobut the wedding b/c my grandmother but then i feel guilty not doing things to prepare for the biggest day of my life.
I feel defeated...
You have every right to feel sad! But also know that your grandma would love for you to be happy and enjoy your wedding day also! Please take care of yourself and let us know if there is anything else you need!
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time. Just remember that your granmother loved you very much and there is no way in the world that she would miss your wedding, she will be right beside you in spirit. Try to keep your head held high and enjoy your wedding as you know she would want to.
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother but just remember this - she would want it to be a happy and joyous occasion and the day is still about YOU! I love the idea of her picture on the bouquet. My grandmother and I were extremely close and although she passed away nine years ago, I want to honor her in some way at my wedding. Just know that although she may not be there in body, she is there in spirit looking over and smiling down on you. Enjoy your day and congratulations!
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Don't feel guilty (easier said than done), I'm sure your grandmom would want you to have a beautiful wedding. I'm sure your entire family feels the same way. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
Sweetie cry when you need to, it helps. Be sad, you're supposed to be. You loved your grandma and you miss her. But know that she would want you to have a beautiful day and would want you to enjoy every minute of it and not waste a second of it feeling guilty about it because of her. Her absence will definitely be noticed at the wedding, but I'm sure she's celebrating this new chapter in your life beside you. This is a good time to reflect on being surrounded by the people who love you and your strength together as a network of friends and family. Your grandma would be proud and you know she's there with you all.
hey bees! i would like to say my apologies to the other bees that have recently (or even not so recently) lost a loved one.
Thank you for all your encouraging words, they are very soothing and i really appreciate all your kind words and prayers for me and my family during this difficult time.
You guys are great! :)
Happy wedding day to all the June 5th brides (in a few short hours!)
*Hugs* I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. Stay up. It will be your day today and I hope it will be a happy day despite what just happened. Sadly, life goes on. I like the vistagirl's idea about putting a pic of her on your bouquet.
I'm so happy for you that your getting married today and I can't wait to see pics!
Congrats good luck!
Hope you had a wonderful wedding and you are taking the time to take care of yourself after the services this past weekend!
I couldn't imagine the feelings and thoughts you're going through right now. I haven't read many of the above posts but my suggestion would be to simply lay a rose on her chair. I think a picture may bring a lot of emotion.
We are having candles and photos of our loved ones that are no longer with us. I love the charm on the bouquet too. I like that idea a lot.
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My grandmother died today. She was around 70 years old and has been in and out of the hospital for months now. Just two weeks ago she was doign therapy and lifting weights! Her heart stopped today and her life ended...it was just awful news to hear. I miss her dearly, a lot of people do. but we are comforted knowing that she is happier and healthier now.
Our wedding is in less than three days and my grandmothers funeral will be the day after our wedding. There are a lot of mixed emotions in the family and it is a very tough time. We (me, my sisters and mother) were actually running around doing last minute things for the wedding today when we got the call. we had to pull over because we could not drive.
I am wanting to do some sort of memory to my grandmother at the wedding...in honour of her. Any ideas? All i can think of is to have a pic of her that says in memory of her at the entrance. what do you guys think? Will this bring sad emotions to a joyful day or do you think it will put a smile on peoples faces to see the picture?