Post # 1
My grandmother died today. She was around 70 years old and has been in and out of the hospital for months now. Just two weeks ago she was doign therapy and lifting weights! Her heart stopped today and her life ended…it was just awful news to hear. I miss her dearly, a lot of people do. but we are comforted knowing that she is happier and healthier now.
Our wedding is in less than three days and my grandmothers funeral will be the day after our wedding. There are a lot of mixed emotions in the family and it is a very tough time. We (me, my sisters and mother) were actually running around doing last minute things for the wedding today when we got the call. we had to pull over because we could not drive.
I am wanting to do some sort of memory to my grandmother at the wedding…in honour of her. Any ideas? All i can think of is to have a pic of her that says in memory of her at the entrance. what do you guys think? Will this bring sad emotions to a joyful day or do you think it will put a smile on peoples faces to see the picture?
Post # 3
Im so sorry, this is awful and so horrible that its so close to your wedding. My grandmothers funeral was the day before my cousin wedding and i know how difficult this can be on the family. I hope everything works out well for you and remember to enjoy your day even though you are, of course, sad about her death. *lots of hugs our way*
Post # 4
Ohhh, honey. I’m so sorry. It’s always terrible to lose a grandma, especially so close to your wedding day. I know she would have loved to be there, and will be, in spirit.
I’ve thought about ways to honor my grandmas at my wedding. Although they died many years ago, I was close to them and miss them especially as I get married because I can imagine how happy they would have been and how much they would have enjoyed the day.
Some things that I thought of are, as you say, a nice table with pictures, candles, flowers. (I don’t think it would be too sad for guests — I imagine they’d be happy to see it.) You could include photos of her as a girl or her wedding photo as well as photos from later in life, if available.
Also, wear something of hers: a piece of jewelry or carry her handkerchief. Something to keep her near you. I’m thinking of baking cookies using our grandmas’ favorite recipes for our Rehearsal Dinner or out-of town bags. I’d include the recipe plus a note explaining that it’s in memory of her.
Are your programs already printed? If not, you might want to include a dedication (or even add one on a printed label), or just mention her in the ceremony or speeches at the reception.
I’m very sorry for your loss, but if there’s one thing I know about grandmas, they stay with you very strongly even when they’re gone. Have a beautiful wedding, and enjoy both the happy and bittersweet moments.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry! I would definitely something “in remembrance” at the wedding – a candle or bouquet of flowers up front perhaps.
Post # 6
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard this is on you, especially so close to your wedding. I think your idea about putting a picture of her at the entrance is wonderful. I have also heard of people leaving a chair empty and putting a flower on it to designate what would have been her spot, although with her passing being so recent, that may be too difficult for you to handle. Do what feels right for you. Once again, I am so sorry.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know it’s a tough time with very mixed emotions… try to experience whatever joy you can surrounding your wedding, but of course don’t feel obligated to feel one way or the other; it’s a very happy/sad time right now.
As far as honoring her, do whatever you think is best, or maybe ask your mom for ideas if she’s up to it. I think a picture right at the entrance might be too much for some considering the loss is so recent (but you know best for your family). I think maybe you could have a chair for her with flowers on it or, if that’s too much, maybe display a portrait of her near the cake or near where the ceremony is held. Did she have a favorite flower you could incorporate into your bouquet?
Post # 8
Im so sorry to hear that!! Maybe you can have the officiant add something short into your ceremony about her. Try your best to enjoy your wedding day and know she will be with you and she is no longer suffering.
Post # 9
I really have no words. I am very sorry for your loss.
One thing to remember, and please don’t think this is awful of me to say – but just try and enjoy your wedding day as much as possible – as I’m sure your grandmother would want nothing but happiness on your wedding day.
I love the idea of wearing something of hers. Both of my grandmothers (and grandfathers) passed years ago – but I was close to them and am doing the pictures of their weddings on our guestbook table. I also have a strand of my maternal grandmother’s pearls I will wrap around my bouquet.
I wish you all the love on your wedding day and sending you (((hugs))).
Post # 10
(((Hugs))) I’m sorry for your loss. You have received some excellent suggestions. Just go ahead with what gives you the most comfort in remembering a special lady.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for the loss- the loss of a grandparent is one of the saddest things in life whether its expected or not. As for remembering her- I second the wearing a piece of her jewelry. Also maybe have a locket with her picture on it on your bouquet.. My mom’s father died almost 5 years ago and when my mom remarried 2 years ago she put her bouquet on his grave the following day- That might be a thought if you’re not planning on saving it..
Post # 12
my grandma and i are close so i attached her wedding photo to my bouquet, since i wanted my something old to be something from her wedding dy, but she didnt have ant mementos. So sorry to hear about your grandma!!!
photo from shannon morse photography
Post # 13
i’m so sorry for your loss!!! I agree with many of the other suggestions- I think a bouquet of flowers on her chair would be a really nice gesture. But I also agree- try to enjoy your day as much as possible. I am sure that would be what she would have wanted.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry about your loss. I would suggest a bouquet charm or maybe a piece of her jewelry to make you have her there for your wedding?
Post # 15
I’m so sorry.
I think the idea of including a recipe of hers, or something you know she loved, in the welcome bags or something like that would be a nice idea.
At my grandfather’s funeral, we gave everyone a Hershey bar and drank his favorite beer (the only beer he’d drink), since those were 2 of his favorite things. It was a way to remember him that made people smile in the middle of the sadness.
Post # 16
Awww…so sorry. This happened to my cousin…my Aunt died 3 days before her daughter’s wedding. We had the funeral and luncheon the day before the wedding, and they had the rehearsal and dinner that night.
It was hard to get through the wedding day, but something they just had to do. One thing they did forget about was to tell the band not to play the songs the bride’s Grandmother had requested be played,so when the first one started,there were lots of tears. 🙁
They also had a table display of all family wedding pictures they could gather,but in front of my Aunt’s picture they had a candle burning and a white rose placed. It was nice.
Best of luck to you on your wedding day!