- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I really hate to say stuff about people but this whole situation is getting ridiculous. Me and my husband have been married well over a year. Together for almost 5. His sister has never been very warm towards me. In the beginning I was a little sad but heard this was just the way she was. I figured okay. The issues really started about 4 years ago or so. They were always very petty and immature issues. We’ve always just did the best we could, given that my husband is very close to her 3 kids (5, 3, and 1) and he doesn’t put it past her to not allow him to see them if he tells her off for her rude behavior (even her parents are afraid of this).
She’s very good at making comments that are very snarky but in a way that she can play off if someone else was to hear. She practices this a lot on my DH. The last time being at the last family gathering. Like I said we’ve gotten to the point that we just ignore her behavior. However, this last time it really irked us that her one boy has always liked to spend one-on-one playing time with me. Well with all the kids and the rest of the family there he had others to play with. Great! He was having fun. Took to the oldest of the kids (17). (I didn’t care, thought nothing of it) Right away SIL kept trying to force him more and more on her when he’d come to sit in my lap. Telling her mom how much he adored her and how attached he was (her kid was in my lap ready for a nap at the time) and how she should babysit. She doesn’t even let us babysit unless there’s no other choice. WTH! We’re very good with kids and more responsible. This girl also has the same name as me and when his mom told him this he got a little confused. So instead of helping by saying well you can call her (B) and her (Aunt B). I’ve never been called Aunt. This is the upsetting part that finally got me. I understood when we first got engaged they wouldn’t yet, and then we got married I understood they didn’t know what that meant but that if they refered to me as Aunt (B) that they’d start calling me that. My DH is always refered to as Uncle (C) by everyone. My DH has been trying to call me aunt since we were married and his mom has started. But his sister seems to refuse to. I know this is really petty. But given everything else it seems like such a cheap shot at me. I’ve never done anything to her. Do I have a right to be upset that her kids don’t call me aunt?