- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Over the last two months I’ve been having a horrible time nailing down a venue. My FH and I fell in love with the very first place we looked, although we did look at a couple of others. It’s a gorgeous historic estate in New York state with amazing views of the river; the processional would descend from the porch of this house, across a long lawn, to the ceremony at the best vantage point…really gorgeous. Then, cocktail hour in the gardens and a tented reception with a caterer we love.
The problem is, while we knew that our weekend was the last weekend before the summer theater season that operates on the grounds takes over, we were not aware that they would be putting up a big tent in view (behind and to the left) of our ceremony site. At first this freaked us out but we eventually got over it. Then we found out a photo of someone’s rehearsal this year; in the background, by the tent, is a giant blue construction crane and red tractor. We contacted the venue for some garuntee that equipment wouldn’t be there on the wedding day, and the site coordinator said she really has no control over it. Cue the second freak out. Besides being aesthetically ugly, I think that’s really dangerous at an event with alcohol and a few chidlren! The site coordinator said that she thinks, based on past schedules for the festival, that construction will be done by our wedding date, and my parents have suggested that we can give my uncle, who lives nearby, a few hundred dollars and a mission to scope out the site in the days leading up ot the wedding and try to pursuade the workers to clean the equipment up if it looks like it’ll be left there.
Since then we’ve spent every weekend scouring the area for a venue that’s similar, and yesterday found one that is probably the best alternative… but. It just doesn’t compare. The grounds aren’t as beautiful, the procession wouldn’t be as lovely, it’s not as isolated (residential neighborhood with houses on either side). It DOES have a much better rain plan (an indoors to go to, rather than renting aditional tents and doing everything tented at the original site), is less expensive, and while it doesn’t compare, is very pretty. It also gives us the option of having the wedding on the date we orriginally wantd (June 28) instead of the date we had to take to get the first venue (May 31).
So…what do you think? The venue that we have loved from the moment we saw it, with the slightly ugly tent, the small risk of ugly equipment, the much scarier situation if it rains, and the probable greater total expense, or the venue that we like ok, with better backups, less cost, a prettier date, but much less beautiful grounds for photos and guests to explore?