- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Hello! This is my first wedding bee post, even though I’ve been lurking around reading for 6+ months 🙂
I got engaged about four months ago. Even prior to our engagement, my FI and I had talked quite a bit about our bridal party and who we would ask to stand up with us, etc.
After we had been engaged for several weeks, I checked back with him to see if he was still thinking about the same people/same number of groomsmen before I asked girls to by my bridesmaids. I have 5 total – my BFF is my MOH, I have 3 sisters, and then my future niece-in-law (large family – she’s actually older than I am).
This past weekend, my FI told me that he doesn’t think he will have anyone (!!!) stand up with him (other than our four year old son, who, although adorable, doesn’t quite count as an official witness) My FI parents have both passed away and although he has six brothers, they have a fairly strained relationship, and then FI had an issue with the guy who would have been his best man (which was kind of on-going and FI was ignoring it, but it got to the point where it couldn’t be ignored anymore)
Anyways, what am I supposed to do now?! I think it will be incredibly awkward with 5 bridesmaids and no groomsmen. Best case senario – I’d still have my BFF up there with me, but not my sisters or niece. I really think my sisters would be understanding and fine with everything (it would probably be my mom who would freak out) and I know my niece will be disappointed, but again…I think (hope!) she’ll be okay.
Do you think it would be more awkward to have 5 bridesmaids and no groomsmen or un-ask 4 girls you’ve already asked to be bridesmaids? We haven’t bought dresses yet and my bridesmaids are spread all over the country, so no one has planned anything/committed to anything, etc… The only thing we’ve talked about has been doing nails and lunch the day before the wedding and hair/make-up the day of – which I think we can still do together, regardless of wedding party role?
As much as I would prefer to have a normal bridal party, I’m not going to force my FI to pick people to stand up with him if he isn’t comfortable with it. Our wedding overall will probably be about 100 poeple and is a catholic mass (with communion) service.