Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
So everyone including myself at my job is getting laid off in less than 2 weeks. I only was planning to invite one of my coworkers that I plan on remaining friends with afterwards. I’m also kind of planning to invite my boss too because I’ve been really involved with helping him and his family outside of work over the years.
Today I got confronted by the woman who sits next to me that she really wants to see me get married and wants an invitation. I had no idea what to say. I said that the guestlist is tight, but I would see as it gets closer if I can invite her. Her best friend (who sits next to me on the other side) asked me earlier in the week if I was planning to invite my boss which I told her I wasn’t sure. I knew she was fishing to see if I would invite him therefore I would invite her too.
I know that I can’t invite one of the friends without the other… But I really don’t think I will remain friends with either of them after the layoffs since we don’t ever do anything outside of work events together. I like them personally, but we don’t have much in common.
So uncomfortable… I think I can try and keep them on a B list or something. I made sure to not give either of them a Save the Date and not say anything to make them expect an invite.
Just venting here… Share your awkward self invites if you’d like 🙂
Post # 3
@NovaGrey: you handled it well– only 2 more weeks!!! After that stick to your plan, you probably wont stay in contact. It’d be silly to invite them, see them at your wedding, and then never again in your life.
Post # 4
I think in less than 2 weeks this situation will resolve itsself. 🙂 I had a friend text me about 3 months before the weeking asking where they should go to get their wedding party things (I didn’t make them part of the wedding party never even mentioned it.)
Post # 5
I bumped into my friend’s mom one day and she started asking me questions. Next thing you know she is asking me where I am registered and saying that she can’t wait for the day! I invited her cause hey, I love her. The list was just really tight.
I also hapened to be at a mall one day and decided to stop to visit a former coworker of mine at her new job. When I saw her we chit chatted for a minute and then she went a got a pen and said something like “So I guess you’l be needing my address”. I invited her too (though she could not make it). The only reason I hadn’t thoguht to was that she would not know anyone else and we are not that close.
As for your situation, I would not invite the two you sit next to. Invite your boss if you’d like and the one riend you are close to. You will probably never see them again anyway.
Post # 6
Your wedding isn’t until March. Invitations don’t need to go out until the end of January — plenty of time for you to lose contact with these people.