- 3 years ago
I should preface this by saying maybe I should have seen this coming…but:
FI and I are doing DIY decorations for our casual rehearsal/ out of towners cocktail reception the night before the wedding. We had the idea to frame wedding photos of our grandparents on both sides. This developed into including photos of my parents (married 40 years) and even our brothers who are both married.
FI’s mom and dad are divorced for over 25 years but HATE each other (ongoing drama). FFIL has a long term girlfriend.
At a recent family gathering, we had mentioned to FMIL the grandparent pictures and she was going to get me some nice ones of her parents. Then she offered to give us a picture of her and her ex on their wedding day….
I honestly didn’t know how to respond. I didn’t want to insult her, and decline because the whole sentiment behind having those photos is to honour our family members who are married…but at the same time ISN’T THAT REALLY WEIRD? FI has never even seen a photo of his parents wedding, becasue it’s basically a no-no topic.
FFIL and GF won’t be attending the rehearsal, so they won’t necessarily see, but it’s a widely known fact that they hate each other. Plus if FFIL finds out it might ruffle his GF’s feathers. PLUS IT’S WEIRD.
So do I have to call off the whole idea? Or is there any way to politely decline using FMIL’s photo without basically pointing out that it belies the sentiment of the decorations?