awkward gift situation?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d probably text her a cute picture of the plant/frame in your house telling her you love it.  And get them a nice gift Christmas/holiday gift.  

They’ve given you this, and they’ll probably give you a shower gift and a wedding gift.  That’s a lot of gifts to be grateful for.  

Post # 3
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6030 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Send them a formal thank-you card and if it is still making you feel uncomfortable, send them a random small gift— some gourmet cookies for Halloween perhaps, or some champagne for their first New Years Eve in their new home. You don’t have to make gift-giving be a tit-for-tat kind of thing but if someone was kind enough to give you an unexpected gift, then they are probably a person who is worth spoiling a little bit.

Post # 4
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1346 posts
Bumble bee

These situations come up all the time, and your intent can drive your response. Since your b’days were so close to each other, you could easily send the wife a card with theatre or movie tickets or a gift certificate for dinner as a ” we enjoyed seeing you guys” gift.

There is often a certain amount of back and forth in gift giving situations. If you are fond of them and would like to send something, do it.

Post # 5
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3547 posts
Sugar bee

amberback:  It is a gift, and if it is truly a gift, they won’t expect anything back.  Write them a nice thank you note, if you feel close enough, ask them to dinner or something along those lines or maybe get them a plant for their yard.  I don’t know, but don’t feel obligated to get them some super nice gift because they got you one.  Be thankful and grateful, but don’t feel pressured to be getting them a gift/

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

amberback:  Would you not have given them a gift if their original plans for their housewarming party were not changed? If you would have, then I would send them a card thanking them for their gift  and enclose a gift card for the nearest nursery or garden center.

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