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I act the same way if I don't like the ring. I will try to be nice and maybe say it's pretty but I won't be like OMG ITS GORGEOUS I LURRRRRVEEEEE ITTTTTTTT!!!!!!! Honestly, I wouldn't care if people don't gush about my rings. I love them and that's what matters!
i do the same thing as i do on the board, oh congratulations!! how awesome, did you give him direction?!
hahaha crebre! in this case, it was a complete and utter surprise and you can tell that she's not totally in love with it either. she said she wouldn't have picked it out herself, so i kinda feel bad for her. but the sad part is that her ring is basically a replica of an antique, something that i told my BF to do if he couldn't find an actual antique that he thought i'd like, so now i don't want it to seem like we're copying them!
@jaxx: :D lol i try to be pc.. poor girl :(... i don't know if i would be okay with M not getting me something similar to what i want... but oddly enough i found a DIAMOND the other day that i thought was cool (shock, diamond me omg) lol!!!
holy shock of all shocks!!! a DIAMOND!! praytell - do you have a photo??? this is a new development! how interesting! what made you like it? I'm so intrigued!
I lie. Sometimes-- it is just nicer. If I don't like the ring I will still say something like "awwwww that is SO pretty! congrats!"
If I do like it I'll be like OMG YOUR MAN DID GOOD how FANTASTIC! heh
Ditto. No matter how gaudy and hideous I think the ring is (I prefer super simple jewelry) my response is always "OMG ITS AMAZING!!!!!" Extra points if you ask to try it on.
I'm with @corgi and @peanut-- Even if I don't OOOOOHHHH and AWWWWW about a ring, I will still say something like "it's so pretty! congratulations!"
I usually just say congratulations.
One of the girls at the hubby's work got engaged after I did and her ring is about 1/4 the size of mine and a solitaire where mine is that vintage stuff, with a halo (ya-da ya-da) and she spent the whole time saying (in front of the hubby and I) that she trying on plenty of rings like mine but she just wanted something classic. And not everyone can pull off a big gaudy ring like mine, etc. I have never rubbed in my ring in anyone's face and it doesn't help she doesn't like me. So that was awkward. Not just for me but for everyone standing there!
Miss Yap - that's soooo rude! I can't believe she *actually* said that out loud. Even if I was really thinking that, I would NEVER, I repeat - NEVER, say that to anyone, especially if other people were standing there or in earshot of me. ugh. some people have no class these days!!
Wow MissYap. I would have been picturing what that gaudy ring would have looked like when my hand was made into a fist... just kidding. I just don't believe the nerve people have! I too have a bigger ring than most people I know, and I never say a word about it, either. It makes me uncomfortable when people bring it up!
@peanutlovespumpkin-- do you do that?! i would LOVE to try on peoples' rings but i thought they'd thing i was so weird if i asked! haha. All my girlfriends have tried on mine, I guess... but only one actually asked (and she has been my friend since i was 2). The others all tried it on one night when we were doing manis and i put my ring on the coffee table and they decided we needed a photo shoot with each girl in the group wearing it hehe. (FI thought it was SO weird when my friend put photos of our girls' night on facebook... including photos of a whole bunch of girls trying on my ring! heh)
This is hilarious it reminds me of the Seinfeld episode with the ugly baby!
Your always expected to ooooh and Ahhhh but what happens if you think the baby's ugly. LOL
I usually do the "Awe. Congrats" when I don't particularly like the ring.
I think my most awkward ring moment was when a friend asked what I was hoping J would get me. She's older and has been married for like 5 or 6 years now, and I've never noticed her ring. I told her that I was trying to keep an open mind and let him choose, but I knew I didn't just want a plain solitaire, and I knew I wanted it to be round because I feel like princess cut solitaires are really trendy right now.
She goes, "Oh, you mean like this?" and whips out her princess cut solitaire (which, in my defense, looked EXACTLY like the princess solitaires like 4 of my other friends have). I was like, "uhhhhhh... yeah. It's beautiful, but not my style."
Oops.
*sigh* yeah, rings and girls just make lots of things awkward. But I was just more amused than anything else. Everyone else just stood there with nothing to say. What does one say to that?
@daydream it is a trend right now, like it or not! Just like halo rings. They are classic in some respects, but are popular right now, making them trendy!
That would be totallyyyyy awkward though.
And MissYap, I'm glad you found amusement in it!
@daydreamwanderer- ouch! But you're right... the most popular rings must be round and princess solitaires. Round of course is classic since forever but princess cut is newer and thus gets deemed "trendy." I think you recovered pretty well :)
After I got engaged, one of my friends was telling me about a college mate's ring and she went on and on about how it looked, describing it as being this "gaudy haloed ring with pave stones on the sides" and how she thought it was so ugly... I think she said that because it didn't look like hers... but yeah, thats exactly what I have... and she was standing there telling me about the other girls ring... I was like, did it look like this? and held up my hand. :-) I think she wasn't thinking about who she was talking to when she said it. Mine does look like that, just with a pear shape instead of a round! oh well, I love mine! It was pretty funny.
@missyap:i think i would have said "well size really does matter... i'm sooo blessed to have 104 diamonds on my ring, it shows how much he REALLY cares, but it's cool i'm sure you can upgrade yours on your 10th anniversary, i didn't want to have to worry about upgrading mine later :D" but i'm mean :D
@Corgi: oh totally! Well, only with my girlfriends, never with acquaintances :) I actually didn't know it was a "thing" until my friends started getting engaged, and they would say "do you want to try it on??? HERE!!!" and jam it onto my finger, lol! Then when I got engaged and some of my friends asked to try mine on, I felt so happy and flattered, so I keep it in mind whenever I greet a newly-engaged friend.
I just had this happen at work the other day! My co-worker (who's wedding I am attending tomorrow...errrr...later today) showed me the new, upgraded, 2.5ctw ring her FI got her for Christmas (because her last ring was "too small" for her being Only 1ctw.)- I think its gaudy and funky looking. My reaction was, "Oh, that's really nice." And then I proceeded to ask how she felt about it and how happy she was. Kept her talking for a good 30-45 minutes. lol. I have Never, not ONCE, had anyone look at my ring a gush. Mostly I get a, "Oh. That's...nice." polite reaction. Must mean no one else likes my ring! Oh well, I love it!
I'm in the "congratulate her and be nice" camp. :)
Wait. The newly engaged girl didn't care for the ring, either? Well, that's a trickier situation... between her and her fiance.
Even if I might not like a certain style of ring in general, sometimes it just matches the girl who's wearing it so perfectly that I couldn't imagine anything else. And also, if I saw some people in my favorite styles, it just wouldn't seem like the right ring for them. Like if my dad were to get my mom a second ring (whether anniversary or right-hand sort of thing) in some of the styles I've looked at and loved? Some of them just wouldn't work for her at all.
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So tonight I was at a housewarming/holiday party in a very awkward situation. My BF's best friend recently got engaged, but tonight was the first time I've seen his fiance since. About half of the time I was at the party, the conversation was about either her ring or their wedding plans, which was sort of annoying in itself, but at some point, one of the guests asked to see her ring. She obliged and ended up showing it off to everyone there. Personally, her ring was not at all my taste and I thought it pretty unattractive, but of course I was polite and pretty much just nodded and smiled. I felt bad that I wasn't chiming in with all the "oooo-ing" and "ahhhh-ing" but I really didn't like it at all. As my mother always taught me, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything!
Just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation....or have you been on the reverse (someone didn't like your ring)? How did you react?