Post # 1
Lot’s of questions for the etiquette board lately…
DH’s brother was dating someone who we invited to the wedding. As a wedding gift she gave a gift card to Starbucks with the words “Coffee Date!” and said in the card she wanted to make a custom painting for us as a gift so we should meet to discuss colours, etc.
DH’s brother broke up with her 2 days after the wedding.
What do we do with regards to a thank you card??
Post # 3
I would find out her address and send her a thank you card like your other guests. I definitely wouldnt do the custom painting thing bc it would be awkward since she no longer dates your BIL.
Post # 4
@gelaine22: +1. I’d send her a thank you card, and just leave it at that.
Post # 5
As the +1 guest of your BIL, she really didn’t have to give you a gift, but it was generous that she did.
Etiquette holds that thank yous are for gifts actually received, so I would just write her a note thanking her for the gift card and for her generosity. I wouldn’t follow through to set up the appointment, but if she pursues it with you I’d tell her it is absolutely not necessary.