Post # 1
Okay, I’m going to attempt to write this without sounding ungrateful and whine-y.
My mother is a wedding florist and she graciously is taking care of all of the flowers for our wedding on Saturday. Her and I have been planning the flowers all year, I’ve been showing her photos, we’ve had a lot of fun putting the vision together.
Well, she’s just starting on the centerpieces and she texted me a photo…and I want so badly to be excited about them but I just don’t love them…
She’s putting alot of time, money and energy into doing this for our wedding and I feel like I can’t say anything…but I kind of want to. But I’ll also feel terrible if I hurt her feelings or quite possibly piss her off. What would you do?
Post # 4
Do you have a picture so you can show us what you don’t like about them?
It could just be that they’re not finished and don’t look right yet.
Post # 5
@MissGemini: She wouldn’t have sent you a pic if she wasn’t ready for feedback. You can suggest changes without telling her you don’t like it.
I do recommend you respond asap before she gets too much done.
Just tell her what changes you want, or how it differs from your vision.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MissGemini: Make a suggestion to solve what you don’t like about them! You don’t have to outright say “I hate them!”
At the end of the day, they’re flowers, they’ll be in a few pictures, no one will remember them and then they die so I wouldn’t worry about it too much!
Post # 7
@MissGemini: I suggest you go with a common business communication approach:
Start with saying what you like about the flowers first (color, size, number, type of flower, anything).
Follow that with “but is it possible to change this part into…?” (and maybe show her a photo of what you mean).
And then add another positive comment (like, “It looks almost like that picture we talked about! Thanks, Mom”).
and then another “Do you think it will look nicer if…”
Remember that she is the expert. Appeal to her ego (pardon the term) by soliciting her advice on HOW to get the look YOU want.
Post # 8
I think that you should let her know that they aren’t quite what you envisioned, and make suggestions as to what she can do to get back on the right track… do you mind sharing the photo she sent, along with your ‘inspiration’?
Post # 9
@MissGemini: I wouldn’t bump something that hasn’t had a response in 11 minutes, people will answer eventually!
I don’t know what to say…what about sending us a photo? Most people like to see visual proof of what they are commenting/responding on.
I think you should be like “wow thank you so much mom for doing this for me, it means a lot…I just have one suggestion if you don’t mind..”
Post # 10
Is it the flowers you don’t like or the arrangements? I feel like suggestions for the arrangements would be okay but asking her to redo everything might be a little much.
Post # 11
Well hmm. I mean, how big are the changes you would need to make? Can you just say, “Oh, awesome! Now that I’m seeing my vision come to life, what if we added more peonies?” or whatever? It is only a few days out, though, so if you know it’s too late to make any changes, I think I’d just suck it up, lol.
Sorry, this sounds stressful! I’m sure your wedding is going to be amazing!!
Post # 12
@IzzyBear: Here it is. This is the completed version:
Post # 13
@MissGemini: UMMMM THESE ARE GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 14
I think they look nice! but what was your vision, do you have an inspiration pic?
Post # 15
@MissGemini: Can you pinpoint what you dont like about them? I think they look nice, personally.
Post # 16
What don’t you like about them?