Awkward Situation – Mom is the florist, disappointed in samples

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
  • poll: What should I do?
    Tell her, as nicely as you can, to make some changes : (57 votes)
    86 %
    Just be grateful she's spending $4000 on flowers and don't say anything : (9 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 4
    5935 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Do you have a picture so you can show us what you don’t like about them?

    It could just be that they’re not finished and don’t look right yet.

    Post # 5
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MissGemini:  She wouldn’t have sent you a pic if she wasn’t ready for feedback. You can suggest changes without telling her you don’t like it.

    I do recommend you respond asap before she gets too much done.

    Just tell her what changes you want, or how it differs from your vision.

    Post # 6
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MissGemini:  Make a suggestion to solve what you don’t like about them!  You don’t have to outright say “I hate them!”


    At the end of the day, they’re flowers, they’ll be in a few pictures, no one will remember them and then they die so I wouldn’t worry about it too much!


    Post # 7
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    @MissGemini:  I suggest you go with a common business communication approach:

    Start with saying what you like about the flowers first (color, size, number, type of flower, anything).

    Follow that with “but is it possible to change this part into…?” (and maybe show her a photo of what you mean).

    And then add another positive comment (like, “It looks almost like that picture we talked about! Thanks, Mom”).

    and then another “Do you think it will look nicer if…”

    Remember that she is the expert. Appeal to her ego (pardon the term) by soliciting her advice on HOW to get the look YOU want.

    Post # 8
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think that you should let her know that they aren’t quite what you envisioned, and make suggestions as to what she can do to get back on the right track… do you mind sharing the photo she sent, along with your ‘inspiration’?

    Post # 9
    4440 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MissGemini:  I wouldn’t bump something that hasn’t had a response in 11 minutes, people will answer eventually!

    I don’t know what to say…what about sending us a photo? Most people like to see visual proof of what they are commenting/responding on.

    I think you should be like “wow thank you so much mom for doing this for me, it means a lot…I just have one suggestion if you don’t mind..”

    Post # 10
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    Is it the flowers you don’t like or the arrangements? I feel like suggestions for the arrangements would be okay but asking her to redo everything might be a little much.

    Post # 11
    3202 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Well hmm. I mean, how big are the changes you would need to make? Can you just say, “Oh, awesome! Now that I’m seeing my vision come to life, what if we added more peonies?” or whatever? It is only a few days out, though, so if you know it’s too late to make any changes, I think I’d just suck it up, lol.

    Sorry, this sounds stressful! I’m sure your wedding is going to be amazing!!

    Post # 13
    4440 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MissGemini:  UMMMM THESE ARE GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Post # 14
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think they look nice! but what was your vision, do you have an inspiration pic?

    Post # 15
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MissGemini:  Can you pinpoint what you dont like about them? I think they look nice, personally.

    Post # 16
    6963 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What don’t you like about them?

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