- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2017
Let me start by saying that I admit that I am a control freak, and am trying to determine if this situation warrants my “controlling” (or input) or if I should let it go.
SO and his family have decided to get a dog. In actuality, SO’s younger brother is the one who decided he wanted a dog, and the rest of the family agreed. They all live together and have never owned a dog; they have only ever had a turtle and a snake before. SO’s brother decided on a pitbull, and the family agreed. I (being an avid pitbull lover) was overjoyed to hear this. I took his brother to three shelters in the valley, but he was the one paying for the dog, and he wants a male of a certain color. It took us about 2 weeks, but we found a rescue with a litter that fit his criteria.
I drove SO’s brother down to see the puppies and offer input on the litter (as well as some of the personality traits I noticed) and he decided on the one he wanted. Throughout, I admit that I was really fond of the chosen dog’s personality and was really voicing my opinion on how he was an excellent choice; I don’t know if this made a difference or not though.
On the drive home, I began talking to him about training. I asked if I could take the dog to training classes and he said no. He wants the dog to be HIS dog (even though I was under the assumption it was the family’s) and wants to mainly hike and go biking with him. I explained that the socialization window is critical from 8-12 weeks and training must begin immediately, but he shook it off. He told me that he would just hit the dog on the head or butt if he did anything bad because “it worked for this guy’s pitbull” (the same guy also said that when his pitbull bit him, he threw him down the stairs, and the dog hasn’t bit again… opening another can of worms that I can vent about…)
I printed out some great articles on positive reinforcement, clicker training, and crate training, as well as create a chart on what to do if the dog does undesired traits. They’re on the counter, but I noticed he hasn’t touched them at all.
I live there 5 days a week during school (which starts tomorrow) so while it is not my family or, really, my dog, I love this breed so much that I want him to be set up for success. I am tempted to talk to his parents (who I’m very close with) about training techniques they can do on the dog, because they’ve never trained before and are confused on what to do.
Should I wait for someone to pose the question to me? Is it my responsibility at all to try and train this puppy? Should I let him raise/train the dog the way he wants to and stay out of it? Should I train the puppy anyway when I have free time to start working on good behaviors?
I don’t want to be too controlling, but I have invested a LOT of my time into pitbulls, and think any “bad” pitbull has a chance of furthering the horrible stereotype.