Post # 1
I love a few rings I’ve seen online already, but I’m antsy about committing to something I’ve never put on my finger. I’m a size 8-8.5 finger, so I am not sure exactly what would look good on me. I love super unique rings with stones around the band, but I am not sure what it would look like on my finger. 🙁 I want something that won’t make my finger look fatter than it already is and just something that will look uniquely me as well… Which brings us to the issue of going into a jewelry store to look at rings.
I havve been so tempted to check it out myself, but everytime I even get close to a jewelry store I am too scared to even go in because of the stares I get. I dress pretty atypical to most women (my style has a gothic flare) and I routinely get angry glares even when I’m not in the store (unless I’m with my SO)…
What do you ladies recommend I do? Suck it up, puff out my chest and walk into a jewelery store by myself to try on rings? Or bring my SO with me and have him suffer while they pressure him to buy (which I don’t really want to put him through)…??
If I go by myself, would telling them I’m looking for an eRing because my SO wants to know what I like help…?
Post # 2
Regardless of how you dress or what you look like (Its BS that you get poor service based on your style) I don’t like trying on things where people work on comission with no intention of buying. My mom and I went to David’s Bridal the day after I got engaged to just look at the racks and the ended up investing a bunch of time in me when I had no itention of buying and I feel bad that I wased over an hour of the nice sale’s girls time!
Also, you can get a cool ring that matches your gothic flair, but it may have to be online unless you live in a big city!
Post # 3
littlewitch: Go into as many stores as you heart desires. lol Dont let the sales people pressure you. A good sales person will spend the time to help you find what your looking for. Believe me shop around and compare prices, warranties, stock etc. And have fun doing it!
Post # 4
littlewitch: If the looks you are getting due to your clothing are making you uncomfortable, then change your clothes. Chances are you have some black slacks from work, or a pair of plain jeans, and I’ve never met a person on the planet who didn’t own normal t-shirts.
No, you shouldn’t have to change, but if the looks are making you uncomfortable, change what you can about the situation (you can’t change how strangers perceive you, only what you give them to perceive).
As far as going in alone, go for it! I go in by myself, because my FI is currently overseas. Just let them know you’re just starting to look around to get an idea of what you like (this will also tip them off that you’re interested in buying RIGHT NOW) so you can give that info to your FI to help him when he goes
Post # 5
if you want to look at engagement rings, go for it!
Sometimes it’s intimidating to step into a jewelry store but please don’t be. As a previous jewelry sales person, I enjoyed helping people regardless if they were intending to buy or not. Plus, there’s no way to figure out what you like if you don’t try them on! 🙂 And if they choose to be rude or judgemental then they don’t deserve to help you!
An 8.5 really isn’t that large Truth be told. I wear a 9.5-10, so I’ll trade you any day! I have long but large fingers, so I chose to go with a split shank and pear cut center. Pear shape elongates your fingers and the split shank is proportionate to the size of my hands.
Take some of those ideas into consideration when you start looking!
Post # 6
I don’t understand how people are supposed to shop without shopping. Walking into a store that pays commission doesn’t mean you are committing to buying from them that day or at all. Obviously not everyone is going to find what they want or what fits their budget that day.
The only time I find it offensive to shop in a commission paying store is when people do it to pass time, with no interest in buying ever.
I think letting the salesperson know you are looking so that you can give your FI an idea of what you want is fine. If you have a good experience and find something you want from that store, it would be a nice gesture to get the salespersons name so your FI could possibly work with them later.
I thought you might get a kick out of the rings on the coffingems website.
Post # 7
fluffysweet: I will say the most frustrating thing I ever heard from customers was, “oh I’m just looking..” I swear, I heard it 50 times a day. My store was located in the mall and people just stopped in because they were bored Or wanted to check out the shiny stuff. Ugh! The whole point of us being there is to help you find what you are looking for. Lol
Post # 8
@Airycuh Oh yeah, I worked in a jewelry department and there were “regulars” co-workers warned me about. A couple different ladies and one old dude who would come in (not together, I doubt they knew each other) and try on or want to hold a dozen or more items from the case each time but they never bought anything or wore jewelry. I could understand if they ultimately bought elsewhere, but it didn’t seem to be the case and it was so annoying. If you don’t intend to ever buy from anywhere, you really don’t need to try it on.
Post # 9
littlewitch: I’m confused… Does your SO want to get engaged?
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I would recommend trying rings on simply because it’ll help give you a better idea of what works and doesn’t work with your hands. For me rings are like jeans and they all fit a certain way, some better than others. There’s nothing wrong with going in by yourself and looking at settings. I did this for my reset ( all by myself) and had some great service and it helped to know which stores had great customer service. I hate the pressure of initial ring shopping and my FI and I felt so pressured that we literally bought almost the first thing we saw. I learned better for the reset and shopped like crazy. They provide a service and ultimately you ( or your FI) will be paying them for that service. Dress shouldn’t make a difference.
Post # 11
Ugh girl I feel you, I HATE going into jewelry stores!!!! They are so stalkerish and weird or they are the opposite and they think you can’t afford anything and they are RUDE. I am always in torn up jeans and flip flops with a big messy bun…I get treated like crap because I guess I look poor and 16 hahah…well by day I am a Microbiologist( not that it makes me rich haha but definitly not 16) so looks are decieving!
My advice is avoid mall stores….they suck. I would try Shane Co or maybe a family/independent jeweler. They are so nice and take their time with you no matter what your spending!
Post # 12
littlewitch: I have only gone into jewellery stores on my own. My SO is allergic to them and no-one else knows our plans to get engaged soon. I’ve been upfront saying that I’ve just started looking at rings and want to find styles that I like. It is also a good time to see which sales people you like/which stores have better quality goods.
I’m so glad I went into actual stores to try rings on because what I loved in pictures didn’t look good on me in real life. I ended up loving something I tried on at the insistance of a sales person that I never would’ve picked.
If people can’t see past your exterior and treat you like everyone deserves to be treated, then they don’t deserve your business.
Post # 13
Perfectionist: I second this!
I used to think halos were trendy and I just knew they would look horrible on me. Well I went into Zales and I tried on a ring from the Vera collection and I was in love. It was huge and blingy and gorgeous and everything I thought I didnt want. I didnt buy a ring from them ( I personally wouldnt buy from a b&m store) but I walked out with a new view on halos and its what I ended up with 🙂
Post # 14
I do it all the time. I mean go into jewelry stores alone. just be honest about why your there. Say “I’m trying to get an idea of what I like and looks good so I can tell my BF”. A good sales person will understand that if they help you and are nice you may send your BF to them. Don’t feel awkward about it! Every one has to figure out what they like on their Own hand.
Post # 15
littlewitch: You can do it! I just told the salespeople that I’d been sent to look at rings and they were delighted to try to convince me to choose their wares. Be firm. It also wouldn’t hurt to do a little bit of research. I was especially taken seriously after I had the lingo down. Double gallery this, VVS that.