Post # 1
1) At a football game, a man saw us (and my naked finger presumably) and told us that we looked like a nice couple and that he should marry me already, because at our age it starts to get embarassing for the woman. (yes, yes he said that….we are in our mid 20’s…?)
2) One of our group’s “couples” got engaged today and a lot of our friends are saying that they thought it would be us first (we have been together longer, which should not be a factor)
1) was awkward…and 2) is just annoying (and I’m sure the bride to be finds it very rude!)
Post # 3
@Mswptobe: I would be totally annoyed by both of those statements. First of all, strangers should keep their mouths shut! Also, don’t let your friends’ words get to you, sometimes people just don’t think before they speak. Just brush it off, and keep your chin up!
Post # 4
Sometimes it makes me feel good and sometimes it doesn’t. I remember when we were going out for two months we just glanced at some rings for fun and the jeweler was trying to pretty much marry us off already@
Post # 5
Thanks for the replies!
@ohmariemarie: I’m heavily in the Shut it up phase… so I really don’t want to be thinking about it at all! And yet, twice in one day! I agree strangers should…he really doesn’t know our situation, and should not comment on it!
@katiecat08: At first I thought it was cute…and then he just kept on talking and it became not cute…very quickly
Post # 6
@Mswptobe: This is exactly why I’m currently avoiding all social situations. Not fun, I’m sorry!
Post # 7
I’ve been with my guy for close to 10yrs and… his younger sister just got engaged and now he’s freaking out because everyone’s looking at us like “what’s wrong with you two?!” 🙂 you’re not alone! This is going to be an awkward holiday season, haha.
Post # 8
@Futurecoacheswife: I think you have the right idea 😉
@secretwife: I know, right? Especially around the holidays …all of the relatives look down at the ring finger….nope, no ring….*looks of pity*. Argh
Post # 9
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with other people’s awkwardness! I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been with my SO nearly 6 years and around the 3-4 year mark we started getting all of those comments, especially around the holidays or when someone else (always dating wayyyy shorter time than us…) got engaged or married. Even strangers have asked why we’re not married! All the shocked looks and pity-filled “awww, it’ll happen for you soon!” were enough to drive me up a wall and make me question it myself, feel like there was something wrong with me, feel embarrassed that I had no answer to the “why not?”s.
For waiting bees, it’s like we’re already thinking about it and working on being “okay” with waiting… why do these people need to get involved in what they’re already implying is a weird situation? I’m still trying to find the most polite way to respond:P
Post # 10
@summerlove21: I know what you mean, at first I would respond with, “oh, well you need to ask Mr. P over there…” but now I just kinda stare right through them. Haha, I guess I figure if they are going to be that socially awkward then I will give it right back to them. That, and I honestly don’t know what to say. My aunt (who is religious) always talks about us “living in sin” but in a ‘joke’ kinda way. Like, haha…that’s so funny? ugh.
Post # 11
@Mswptobe: UGH don’t let this get you down.
Some people make stupid statements…and I would just try not to let it get to you. Hang in there!
Post # 12
@veryberry13: Someone just commented AGAIN. I guess its my age + how long I’ve been with SO but really…. social skills! Its not socially acceptable to ask why you are still not married is it?