Weddingbee boards

Not a fan because it implies that some folks are not as important as others and it creates  upset feelings and rifts in relationships. Plus, folks do find out that they are B-listers and get upset and often wish that you hadn't invited them at all. Those whom you want to share the day with should be part of one list, not a second "if these folks can't come then we'll invite a different group to fill chairs, etc". You can't use the argument of "if they were upset they would have told us" because most people are raised to keep those thoughts to themselves, no matter how offended or hurt they may be. On the other hand, some people don't care and will accept an invite to anything.

Weddings get expensive and not everyone can afford to or wants to share the day with folks they are not close to. Coworkers, casual acquaintances, parents' coworkers/friends fall into the category of those who would get an announcement (which is more polite than a B list invite) and would not be offended at all if they did not receive an invite. Alot of couples don't want to share their wedding day, which to many is a very intimate event, with people who don't care about them as best friends or close family do. Of course, every guestlist is up to the couple.

Just because someone throws you a shower, that doesn't automatically mean they have to be invited to the ceremony. If your coworkers throw you a shower, you graciously accept the party and then continue with your wedding but you don't add anyone who was not on the original list, unless you have a ton of money to spend on them and lots of space at your venue. Never do anything out of obligation that you are remotely hesitant about.