(Closed) Babies and cousins and sitters… oh my!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Lames:

I would let that cousin and her family know that others have made sacrifices and it would NOT be fair to those who did. Tell her if she can not come you completely understand. Furthermore, have hostesses at the door to “block her” from coming into the church with her children. Send her to a cry room if available or have a babysitter available at the church for her to send her child. If she agrees, leave the two year old with the church babysitter. If not, she can leave.

Furthermore, seat her near the back door on the last row so if the 4mo starts to get fussy the hostess can escort her out.

That is what I am doing for my child free wedding. I understand. I love kids too BUT we’ve been planning this day for over a year that can be ruined by fussy children and parents who just sit there

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ditto with @LuvMySailor: it is the height of rudeness to bring children to an event to which they are not invited -actually to bring anyone to an event to which they were not invited.

Having breastfed 2 children I also know that you can feed a two month old just before the ceremony , even just topping them up , and they can last till the ceremony is done. Failing that, seating them in the cry room or in the back row- “just in case they need to slip out to deal with the baby” is an alternative.

You have already made arrangements for the 2 yr old. Either she can accept the arrangements you have made or she can send her regrets.

Post # 6
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lames: *fingers crossed for you* I’m glad your FI is backing you up on this, and you’re being more than helpful for those who do have children. I hope that they simmer down on this one. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Wow, there always seems to be one in every bunch that just tries to break the rules! lol, hopefully she will figure it out that the kiddos are not allowed. You have done evrything right, and hopefully FI mom can straighten it out ok.

Post # 8
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t get why people don’t understand that no kids means no kids! I love kids but didn’t want my wedding/reception to turn into romper room. I felt like it wasn’t my job to have a kid menu, activities for kids or special space for kids (which my venue didn’t have really).

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t see any problem with you standing your ground. She knew what the deal was when she RSVPed. If she doesn’t want to leave her children she can just say she can’t come. I don’t like it when people try to bully people into invitations or allowing their kids to come.

It’s YOUR wedding, it’s YOUR event – you get to call the shots. To some people, making sure everyone can be there is super important, to others not having kids there is important. One choice isn’t better than the other so feel pressured to change your mind (especially when you’ve provided her with options for child-care).

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