Babies in arms only … can I bring a highchair?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Busy bee

“No.”

Maybe throw in a polite smile if you’re feeling generous.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Just say no, that space is limited at the venue. If I heard “babies in arms only,” it would sound to me that you were really trying to discourage babies anyway, so I’m surprised someone asked.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Western:  No, because it’s inconvenient to other guests, and 1 year olds can be babysat.

The two big reasons to allow babies in arms is because they’re hard to babysit (especially because of breastfeeding) and they’re not mobile (so aren’t really disruptive). Neither of these applies to a 1 year old. A 1 year old will probably be walking (and will at least be crawling) so will want to move around.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

Western:  maybe just call them and say sorry but you think you have created some confusion. By babies in arms you really meant babies who are breast feeding. That should clear up the confusion. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Western:  Just say no. Then move on. You’ve already polietly told them. No need to keep explaining yourself.  They are the ones being rude here, not you. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  March1stBride.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Western:  If you don’t want the kid then say no.

“I’m so sorry, but that won’t be possible.  I hope you and your husband will still be able to join us.”  

If they push then just say that unfortunately, you can’t make exceptions.  If they conttinue to push after that then a simple, “I’m sorry, its not possible” or even just, “I’m sorry, but no.”  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I wouldn’t say that you meant brestfeeding babies are allowed by saying “babies in arms” are allowed – there are a bunch of moms who breastfeed at 8 months- 1 yr and beyond. are you actually okay with any babies being there? If so, you can say you meant newborns or whatever it is you meant. If not, just tell her, sorry, due to spacing, there isn’t room for extra chairs and strollers at tables. You hope that she and her husband can still attend. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you meant newborns, you need to be more specific. If you don’t want any babies there, just tell her.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Most people have the sense to realise what “babes in arms” means but of course, there are always exceptions!

So I think you’ll probably need to say that what you meant was babies under three months old. I know plenty of people who breastfeed up to a year and Sod’s Law says that if you use that excuse, your guest will fall into that category! 

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