Post # 1
So my sister’s baby will be 9 months old at our wedding. Everything I have read is having a baby in the ceremony under 2 years old is not the best idea. Does anyone have experience with this? I am having my other niece, my other sister’s baby, who is 4 as the flower girl and this sister’s feelings are slightly hurt that her daughter is not included in the ceremony. I do not feel a 9 month year old baby can really be a part of the ceremony. Any thoughts? Help!!! I want to include everyone and not hurt anyone’s feelings, but I also don’t want a screaming baby all ceremony.
What to do….. I know it is my day and I do whatever I want, but what do you think the “right” thing to do is?
Post # 3
is your sister in your bridal party? if so she can dress the baby up cute and walk in with her. that way everyone sees the baby and she gets a little spotlight.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you do it, put the baby in a stroller or wagon and prepare for the screaming if she isn’t happy. Maybe make a deal with the mom that if she’s cranky, she gets to sit out of the ceremony. I don’t think it’s fair to force a small child to participate in a ceremony when they have no idea what is going on and they will likely misbehave because they have no idea what is going on.
Post # 5
my ring bearer will be 11 months at our ceremony. He will either be pushed down the aisle in a stroller by the flower girls or walk down with his mom. If he miss-behaves one of my flower girls will simply take over.
I plan on giving the little guy a chance and if he’s unhappy mom will just keep him with her.
That’s my plan however I’m a pretty easy going bride and will just go with the flow of the kids and weather. We will also have a sitter onsite and a room reserved for sleep time once the kids start getting tired.
That’s my plan for now.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do it, babies/toddlers under the age of 2 don’t understand the concept yet of staying still and being quiet. 9 months of age, more than likely that baby will need 2 naps yet one in the morning then in the afternoon. So you would get crankiness if your wedding falls when the babies nap time should be.
Post # 7
We will have our 11 month old walk down the aisle with my finances sister(shes 8). I would say not to include the baby unless you have some one to walk with her. And she would more likely have to be carried since she will only be 9 months.
Post # 8
My just under 2yo niece was the flower girl in my brother’s wedding. She ran the whole way down the aisle, and it was adorable. We set her up with an iPod touch to play games on during the ceremony, and she didn’t make a peep. For our wedding in July, we’re having her (now 3.5) and her 15 month old sister as our flower girls. We’re gonna give them some iPads to play with during the ceremony, and it will be fine. If not, their dad can take them out.
I would just have back-up plans!
Post # 9
My daughter was flower girl for my SIL’s wedding at 13 months. She ran down the aisle with a huge smile everyone loved it. I was siiting in the front and scooped her up and she sat on my lap well behaved for the 20 minute ceremony. How long is your ceremony? Most kids can be kept relatively quiet with a snack or drink or book or toy for a short period of time. if the thought of a random peep in the middle doesn’t make you cringe 🙂
Post # 10
@londonlyn: I’d make her a flower girl, but let her dress up, but not be in the processional.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
We had 2 under 2 in the wedding party. I think the key was flexibility. If they had not been into it the day of, we would have just gotten some pictures with them. One had a MAJOR meltdown at the rehersal and was totally fine for the ceremony. One was a little shy and made a b-line into an empty pew about halfway down the aisle. His mama came to his aid and everyone had a good chuckle. 🙂 I am glad they were included and it was a fun way to keep it light and fun.
Post # 12
@beachbride1216: +1 to the stroller or wagon idea. My sister’s daughter (9 months at the time) was the flower girl in her wedding last year. They decorated a wagon very nicely (satin lining, etc.). We had paper flower decorations on the chairs at the ends of the rows down the aisle, and we gave my nice a couple extra ones to hold/play with as someone pulled her down the aisle. She got a little fussy as soon as she got to the front, but we had arranged for an aunt to hold her during the ceremony and/or take her out if she started crying. It worked very well for us.
Post # 13
@londonlyn: I recently went to a wedding where children of all ages, including a baby under a year old, were allowed. Sadly, 2 of the kids, including the baby, wailed during the vows. I would never allow kids under about 4 to be at my wedding. . . too much risk of things being ruined by crying babies or kids.
Hopefully your sister will understand. . .
Post # 15
In the church where we got married, flower girls/ring bearers were not allowed to be younger than 6, I think (5 or 6).
Honestly, I have been to one wedding where the flower girl was a baby that was pulled down the aisle, and she was very cute and just went to sleep. At the same wedding, the 7 year old ring bearer was extremely disruptive by incessantly tapping his feet on the hardwood floor. So I think it depends on the baby/child. Yes, a baby could cry and disrupt things, but so could an older child.
Post # 16
@londonlyn: my mother insisted that my daughter be in her weddig when she was only 4 months old even though I insisted I didn’t want that. She wanted her pulled down in a wagon!!!! Obviously I said that wasn’t safe and that she needed to be strapped in so she ended up being pulled down in her car seat, attached to a wagon. It looked stupid and then she started screaming when she was stuck in there and was taken out by someone I don’t even know. Just don’t do it.