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BABY BUG: You or your Hubby?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Who has the baby bug?
    ME!!! : (35 votes)
    28 %
    Hubby : (27 votes)
    21 %
    Both of us : (28 votes)
    22 %
    Neither of us : (36 votes)
    29 %
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    msduck    August 2009  

    To my surprise my husband has been wanting to talk about having babies, while I on the other hand want to wait awhile before deciding when to have kids.

     

    A lot of girls I know that got married wanted to have kids right away and actually got pregnant fairly quickly after their wedding but I just don't feel the same just yet but my husband seems eager to discuss it more then I am.

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I have baby fever. But it may be because everyone and their brother (that I know) is on their 2nd or 3rd kid.And they're just so cute!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    Me and the Mr. both have baby fever - it is very sweet and exciting to think about our future!

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    We both knew that our timeline was going to be quick, but I think he's more smitten with the idea of a kid than I was.  He's going to be the best. dad. ever.  I love my partner so much :)

     
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    hilsy85    September 2010  

    I'm not even married yet, but my FI wants babies like yesterday. Every month, I have a slight moment of panic where I think, "oh man, what if I"m pregnant (and then I usually get my period the next day!)". He's always like, "That would be great! Right in time for the wedding!" He also wants like 8 children. Um...not happening!

     
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    almostduffy    3-12-2010   socal

    we both do.... mare kid than baby.  We are actually starting the process to adopt a 2-5 year old =)

     
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    Stevie    3rd November 2010   Australia

    I had this conversation with my FI the other day. I'm still at uni, and he was planning on kids straight away! His logic- time it so that I'm pregnant throughout the year, have the baby in the 4 months of university holidays and then go back to studying while he works from home. Good idea in theory I guess, but clearly wouldn't work out!

    As much as I want kids, it's definitely going to be a few years!

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    Me! I think about it all the time even though we decided it's better to wait about 6 more months before we start trying. The logical brain is at war with my biological clock!

     
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    starcharades    December 31, 2011   Philadelphia

    Nope neither of us. We both feel we are way too young.

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    Hubby wants kids, but luckily his logic is keeping him in check. Me on the other hand... I want kids, and the logic ISN'T keeping me in check so sometimes I end up kind of annoying him cause I'll just randomly say "lets have a baby!" even though I know it's not really a good time for it.

     
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    ddubzz    June 5, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Me more than FI.  We'll probably wait a year or two after our wedding, but I definitely feel the biological clock ticking louder than ever!!  :)

     
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    jillianleigh    October 30, 2010   Chicago

    I am very excited to start our family, but I'm looking forward to being newlyweds for a while after the wedding first.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I totally have baby fever but we are waaaayy far away from even thinking about kids! 

     
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    worcesterbride    August 15, 2009   live in NYC, wedding in Worcester, MA

    I have baby fever SO BAD. It's not the right time in our lives, and we want more time as just a couple before starting a family... but I think about babies all the time. All. the. time.

     
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    ggsb    June 13, 2009   Atlanta/North Georgia

    Neither of us...and I wonder if we ever will which is an odd realization.

     
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    nachos    April 2010   Chicago

    I so have the baby bug!!! I tell Mr. Nachos that I want a honeymoon baby all the time :) He's got it too but not nearly as bad as I do.

     
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    asunw    June 10, 2011   Southern Illinois

    I've got it too but the Logic wins most of the time.  I know that its going to be quite a few more years!

     
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    Puggy    November 27, 2010   Southern Indiana/Northwest Florida

    We have both decided that on the wedding night, we start trying!

    There isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't talk about how he can't wait to have kids. It's pretty sweet, and he is going to be an amazing father.

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I've got it bad, but the hubby is nowhere near interested in having kids yet.

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    HELL to the no.  :)

     
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    guineapig    May 2010   Baltimore/Stevensville, MD

    Mr. Guinea Pig looooves kids and would have them right now if he could.  It's not that I don't want kids, but there is no way I'm having kids in grad school.  I figure that gives me at least another 3 years to come up with another delaying excuse until I catch the baby bug :)

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    it's kind of weird for me.  Hubbyb isn't ready and doesn't have the baby bug. I have the 'bug', i.e. the longing, but I'm not ready either!

    We're about 3-4 years away from trying depending on if we're settled in one place by then.

    Our good friends say it came in stages for them, first him then her then him again.  They say when they're both feeling it at the same time they'll get serious about it!

     
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    WDWBride    March 3, 2010   Walt Disney World

    Fi more than me, but ya, both of us have it.  He is ready whenever, I would like to enjoy at least the wedding and honeymoon but we will be starting right away.

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    Neither of us yet!  Life has been pretty busy post-wedding and I think we are both waiting to catch our breaths.  We've decided to think more seriously about it as I approach the big 3-0 (which is in, crap, 7 months...)

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think we both want to be parents SOMEDAY, but we're not considering it seriously for a few years still.

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    We will try n the next 1-2 years, likely, but seeing all the cute Christmasy clothes for babies heightens baby fever for me...

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    My logical brain says to wait for a few more years until we're settled with stable, good paying jobs, and maybe a house. But that same logical places likes to point out that that is not going to happen for another good 10-15 years or so (which is the approximate time it'll take both FI and I to finish undergrad, masters, and PhD). Ummm...I am already 26. I'll be nearly 27 when we get married. If we wait until we are totally stable, it may be too late to have kids! Yikes!

    I have baby fever bad. It was an idea to have kids before I turned 26, but in the last month or so its become an infectious disease! Friends keep having babies and they're so cute! And baby clothes are great! The idea of being everything to another life is freaky- but I'd love to give it a shot! My FI would be The Best Dad Ever. I see it in how he treats my 4 year old nephew and how he treats his 4 and 8 year old cousins.

    He wants kids but is ambivalent as to when we start. He'd prefer to start when we are all graduated and stable, but he also understands my argument that it may be too late by that point. He has been looking at baby websites with me a lot lately though. :) I just hope if we have a kid it looks just like him- curly brown hair, green/blue eyes, and all gangly. ;p

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    We talk about it all the time =) Both of us are excited to be parents one day so we do both have the bug ... but I'd say I have it stronger than him! I would like a baby like now and he would like to wait about a year. I had a scare and I was thinking about what would happen etc. and H and I would just do what we had to ... but now I realize it's better to be more settled for us at least.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    We're in the neither category. We want our own house first, and want to be settled and financially sound. And plus, we like it being just us!!  WE figure we'll start trying around the time I turn 30, and since the whole apocalypse thing is sposed to happen on my 29th birthday, I think its the perfect reason to put it off (even though I dont' think anything major will happen, but whatev)

     
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    msduck    August 2009  

    yah I think the logical side of me is kicking too because I would like to but would rather be more stable in career and savings beforehand

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I believe we covered this topic fairly well on our very first date. "So, I don't really want to have kids. Like, ever." "Cool - me neither." So far, nothing has changed.

     
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    bluejay2201    May 30, 2009   Michigan

    Both of us want to start a family sometime in the next few years. I think I have the baby bug more than he does, but we are waiting to be a little more stable financially (I just lost my job) and move into our house before we start that chapter. I'm really excited though! I can't help but wish we'd somehow be that magical 1% that get pregnant while taking the pill. :P

     
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    AnamCara    April 10, 2010   Ireland/Connecticut

    Our wedding is April 2010 and we'd like to be expecting by the end of 2010.  I'll be 33 at the end of 2010 so there's no time to dilly dally!

     
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    MrsWoohoo    01/02/09   Bay Area, CA

    It was me at first asking for "some sort of team." But now it's hubby who is (jokingly) trying to outdo others. We'll take them one at a time... :)

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    We both got a small bite from the baby bug recently and when FH is around small kids he totally gets hit by baby fever! He loves kids and is so good with them.

     
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    twalila    May 2010   Ohio

    I want a baby like yesterday but FI is definitely not ready at all.  We actually joked about it last night, neither of us can picture him holding an infant (except perhaps at arms length!).  Where we are in life however coincides with his time frame more than mine (I dont want to still be in an apt in Manhattan with a baby.  I want a yard damn it!!) so we'll probably revisit in about a yr to 18 months when our lease is up.  If it feels like time to leave the city for the 'burbs, we'll get down to baby-making=)

     
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    ei_laura    April 15, 2011   Perth, Western Australia

    I'm in the babies = stinky, mindset. At least for the next few years :) 

     

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