Post # 1
So every job I’ve ever had has been working with children, worked at 2 afterschool care programs, I was a live-in-house nanny of a infant and a 1 year old for a year and babysat tons of kids and now I’m a kids arts and craft teacher. My FI and I get married in 4 weeks and I’m hitting complete baby fever!!! Everytime i see a baby now, the automatic thought comes into my head “I’m so ready for that!” and I oddly get jealous and upset when I hear about someone being pregnant (all because I so want to have a baby of my own). Yes, I understand everything it takes to take care of baby, no I’m not fully prepared to be a mom but no one is completely prepared for motherhood. My fiance and I originally decided to not have kids until we celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary, but I don’t think I can wait that long? I’ve been feeling this way about babies for a few months now and I thought it was a phase, but it’s just not going away. I know my Fiance will understand, just don’t want him to feel pressured. So my problem is how do I discuss this with my FI without making him feel rushed or pressured?
Post # 3
I’ve totally felt the same way, it’s normal!! We aren’t even getting married for a year and I’m sure we won’t have a baby for a year or two after that. The baby fever just hit, so I’m sure we can handle it for a while haha. I talk about it with FI but don’t put a time line to it since I don’t really know when will be the right time for us. It will work out! Just focus on your marriage for a while 🙂
Post # 4
I agree – you have to have fun as a couple! You will never have time like this again. Just enjoying being your own little family 🙂
Post # 5
I have the worst baby fever and have the entire time we’ve been together. A lot of it is because he has a 4 year old and I want her to have a sibling! Haha. My friend just had the most amazing half Asian baby too (my fiancé is Korean and I’m spanish) and it makes me want one so bad! I love babysitting her. The worst is that baby cries don’t even annoy me…they make me want a baby more and make me want to care for a baby so bad. I think it’s cute when they cry. It’s horrible. I’m 21 and know I won’t be having babies for a long time…but probably not in my mid to late 20’s/early 30’s like most people would like.
I feel your fever. Just be honest with your fiancé and tell him you wouldn’t mind trying sooner if he’d be ready for it, because it’s really important for the father to be as prepared as possible so he can be 100% supportive. And also enjoy your time just the both of you! : )
Post # 6
Between me and my guy, he’s the one with baby fever. It’s pretty adorable.
But I’m just not ready.
I have baby…unfever.
Post # 7
@Torrid: LOL “I have baby…unfever” I like that
Post # 8
Well as of recently I found out my FI sister is pregnant and now my friend is pregnant lol geeeezzzzzz
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
We thought we’d be the next in our group to have kids — and the first in our immediate frienda group. Found out this weekend that two of our friends are having a baby! I’m super excited, and kind of jealous.
I think eventually you get to a point where having kids just becomes the highest priority despite finances and plans and all that. Obviously it has to be a joint decision, but that’s what happened with us, at least.
Post # 10
I do. Ive bin married for 10 days lol. I get super jealous of other women who are pregnant, like I just found out the teacher in th class room I work in is pregnant. Blah We where walking through a furniture store today and I saw cribs. OMG had to look away. But then Hubby was like cribs sure are expensive, I heard babies will sleep just about anywhere. I know it may not mean hes thinking about it but I got a smile and mile wide when he said that. We vowed to be married at least a year before really discussing it.