Post # 1
I’m not really sure where to put this, but I feel the need to talk to someone..
I’m currently experiencing extreme baby fever.. Like, VERY badly.. Being around my friends sick, tired and screaming children used to make me thing I don’t mind waiting so much, but now it makes me what it even more!
A bit of history: I am 23, Fiance is 25 and we’ve been together for around six and a half years. We’d always said we wanted children in our early 20s, clearly, that hasn’t worked out. I don’t regret our decisions, we’ve spent this time getting ourselves set up. We both have good jobs, a house and we’re getting married November 2014. We’re spending the next 18 months doing some of our “must do’s” before having a baby, I’ll be finishing up my degree and we’ll be expanding our savings.
We plan to TTC right after the wedding. So I know (most of the time) that it isnt a very long wait, and there’s still a very large part of me that thinks waiting is ideal… But the baby fever is getting distracting.. I’m supposed to be working on an assignment right now, but all I can think about is if we’ll be taking our children to ANZAC day parades when they’re little (It’s ANZAC Day in Australia today) and what colour I’ll paint the nursery (its already a nursery in my head!) and perusing the TTC boards..
So my question is, how do you stop baby fever ruling your life? How do I put it to the back of my mind?
Post # 3
I had this too. Bad. Most of my friends are older so they naturally started having children before me.
I made a baby bucket list of things to do before getting pregnant. We wanted to travel more, we wanted to begin building a home, I had fitness goals I wanted to accomplish, I wanted to learn how to cook better, etc.
First, I focused on graduating. May 2012, that happened
Then I had to focus on starting my career, June 2012, that happened
Then I had to wait to get proposed to. That happened in July 2012.
Then we had to set a wedding date and focus on a wedding. The wedding date was set for March 23, 2013.
We personally started NTNP and then TTC 4 months before the wedding. On cycle 1 of active TTC, it happened. I was a pregnant bride.
I know it’s so hard to wait, trust me!! Good luck! The time will fly, trust me. Especially as your wedding gets closer. You are doing the responsible thing by waiting 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
One thing that has helped me has been to set short-term goals. For example, I want to go visit my family this summer then they will come and spend a month with us in our new house. I want to do a half-marathon. Then we are planning a trip to Mexico, and the next thing I know it will be a few months before TTC with just enough time to plan ahead. I love planning and it makes things easier, so I don’t worry too much.
Post # 5
@MrsMaskatoBe: congratulations on both wedding and pregnancy!!! my situation is very similar to yours.. It’s just so distracting!! I know I’m being responsible, but babies are all I can think about..
Post # 6
@candy11: goals seem like a good idea!! It might giv. Me something else to focus on.
Post # 7
@Brooke1226: I toooooooooootally understand. I used to stalk the bump and babies r us website to check out strollers and bedding, and got so jealous everytime I saw a pregnancy announcement.
It will happen and be SO worth the wait 🙂
Post # 8
@Brooke1226: We are also waiting to TTC till the end of 2014, like, December 2014. So I know how you feel. My baby fever is like a rollercoaster, sometimes it’s burning high, other times I’ve calmed myself into being responsible and waiting. For now I’m just enjoying my alone time with Darling Husband and making our house feel like a family home. 🙂 We’re 25 right now and have been together for 7 1/2 years but I would like to be at least 27 when I have my first baby, that age just feels right to me and anything less seems so young! Darling Husband would be fine whenever b/c he wants to be a young father but he understands where I’m coming from and doesn’t mind just enjoying being married for a few years before adding to our family.
For now just focus on planning your dream wedding and try to put off baby thoughts until you’ve both got a ring on it! 😉 Then, it’s so on!!! lol
Post # 9
I feel the same way. We’re finally at the point that we have passed MOST of our goals before we TTC (got married, I finished grad school) but now I need to get a job and we need to save up for a house. So it’s almost worse knowing that we are probably a little over a year away! It doesn’t help that my Darling Husband just a major bite from the baby bug recently and has been pushing it, which I never expected to happen!
Just focus on the goals and timeline, we can make it through!
Post # 10
I’m glad in not the only person out there going through this..! We’re all doing the right thing and will have our babies exactly when we should! 🙂
Post # 11
@Brooke1226: This has been helping me… think about goals like someone already said like a half marathon – it’s physically demanding so you have less time and energy to focus on wanting a baby! Maybe plan some long-distance backpacking trips or other physical activity-focused trips you wouldn’t be able to do pregnant. It doesn’t cure the baby fever completely, but I think it helps!