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You're definitely not alone...haha. We're about 2-3 years away from TTC as we want to  get a house and some of our debt paid off before we have kids. Doesn't stop me from being obsessed with baby stuff! I have a list of names we like kept on my computer and we already have nursery ideas, too!

Right there with you ladies.  My heart is so ready to TTC now but my mind knows its just not the right time!  When we got married DH thought we should wait 3 years before starting and I was more of a 2 year girl, so we're close in what we want.  However, now 2 of his friends are expecting babies and 3 of my friends are - ahhhh!  Makes me want one.  

I'm planning to have the "I want to go of BCP" chat with him on/near our first anniversary...still 8 months away!

I, too, am in this boat, unfortunately. We waited until we were stable with our jobs and incomes to become engaged, and now DH's job is even better-- and I'm preparing to move up in the job world, too.. To me, it's sort of prime time to TTC; to DH, it's time to live. We've been living for 25 and 27 years! haha

So, we have a plan. This year, we pay off all of our credit cards, and we travel. So, we have a Euro trip planned; a few trips in the states; and we're going sky diving for our first anniversary. We sort of made a pre-baby bucket list including a really long zipline and snowboarding.

We've been together for 6 years and lived together for 3. But, for a lot of it, we were college kids with college jobs. We've done a lot, but there's so much more we want to do and see that would be super difficult with a baby.

Don't get me wrong, I have a plan if it were to happen. The problem comes when I want to TTC in 2-3 years, and DH wants to wait 5-7 years. He's super confusing, though, because he's always talking about the things he wants to teach our kid. And, we have a name for a boy-- Lucian Alexander. We can't agree on a girl name, though.

DH shared with me his concerns. I want to be a stay at home mom for the first 3-5 years for each child. We're only planning one or two. He's nervous about being the sole provider. He's also nervous that I won't want to go back to work. Well, I've thought about this. When I was in college, I was a nanny. I told him that I could nanny part time while I was with our firstborn, and once he was in school, I'd be happy to work. I think DH felt a little better, but he still has reservations-- which I understand.

We both also want to own a house. However, I can't be a stay at home mom and own a house where we live now. We have to move (it's far too expensive here), and DH loves his job. There are so many moving parts. I'm a little afraid that if he really waits for the "perfect" time, I'll be 35 and we'll have trouble conceiving.

For now, we have two nieces and a nephew. I love babysitting (I'm their favorite sitter), and I enjoy giving them back!

sorry... this ended up much longer than I had intended

Thanks for creating this thread!  I'll definitely join... I have baby fever like crazy.  DH and I are not in ageement on a timeline right now, which is hard.  He wants to wait up to 2 years, and I want to start now!  We've been married for 9 months, and we're not getting any younger (both 29).  He'd like us to own a home, and to pay down some students loans, and have more "us"/ social time.  We've been living together for 4+ years, so we've had plenty of 'us' time! 

There are other circumstances going on.. My Mom isn't in the greatest health physically, and will only get worse as time goes on.  She also just beat cancer this year, in addition to her other health issues.  His Dad is older.. I want our kids to know their Grandparents, and I think it's important. 

Right now our conversations aren't going so well :( but we keep talking about it (more like I keep bringing it up ;)  Any other ladies going through this?  Tips??  I am so obsessed, anytime I see a baby or see a commercial, I'm like Ooohh babies, which I know doesn't help.  But that's me, I can't help it! 

I have a name list going, but no nusery ideas yet... I pinned a few baby things on Pinterest, and then got texts of 'are you pregnant??' Oops... I always lurk on the baby boards, too!

ETA: I've been off BCP since September... I was out of town helping my Mom and the Rx expired, which I never refilled.  I want to stay off until we TTC, but in the meantime we're using condoms and being very careful.. sigh.

Ahhh me too! It hit me pretty hard around our first anniversary (which was also when we bought our house), and that was six months ago... and that baby fever is still going strong!

We currently live within 30 minutes of all our parents, which I love, but DH's parents are retiring and moving 1000 miles away in 4 years to live in their dream house that they're currently building on some lake property... I'd really like to start having kids before they leave so they can be around for it!

BUT... I need to finish law school first (1.5 more years), and then concentrate on my career for at least 2-3 years... so we're looking at at least 3 years before we TTC. We're financially ready though, and we have a 4-bedroom house with just the two of us living in it... with an empty bedroom upstairs just WAITING... haha!

We've got a few names picked out for each gender - girls: Emmalynn Kate, Natalie Claire, Julia Annemaire, boys: Zachary Sean, Everett Joseph, Ethan Thomas. 

No nursery plans yet, other than having the room sitting there empty upstairs! Haha. 

We made ourselves a Baby Checklist of things we want to do pre-baby (stuff like pay off the mortgage, save up college funds for future kids, go on at least two awesome vacations - just the two of us, buy new cars, etc.).

But even with the checklist to keep me occupied, that empty room upstairs just screams at me every time I go up there!!

Oh, can I join? LOL Here's my baby story:  when I was young I really wanted kids.  Then mid 20's I didn't want any.  Now I'm about to be 29 and having baby fever like whoa.  DF wants one. I want one.  Now how do we figure out WHEN to have one?  Any advice for me? He's 34, will be 35 in May.  How did you figure out your timeline?  (sidenote: not being married is fine.  we've been together for 8 1/2 years and engaged for 7 LOL)

Thank you for starting this! I have some serious baby fever going on... but then I have conflicting feelings about missing out on time alone together as newlyweds, going on trips we've dreamed of, paying off debt, and getting my masters degree. Gahhh. I really don't know how long we can hold off.

@Ms. Gremmlin: Love the bucket list idea...I'm totally suggesting that tonight to DH!

MAJOR baby fever here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We want to start trying in September, but I'm so up in the air about scheduling with school and work. I almost wish we had moved the wedding up earlier and gotten pregnant earlier, but the timing was off.  

Oh well!  There is never a good time.  Which just makes me think, why don't we start TTC now?! :0 

But then the rational part of my chimes in. 

@futureMrsCPT:sounds like y'all are ready NOW! Haha... no timeline needed!

SO GOOD to know I'm not the only one that has the fever but still needs to wait at least a couple years... sometimes I wonder how on earth I am ever going to hold out that long!

I saw some photos of DH the other day from when he was 3 or 4 years old, and he was SO CUTE! It just made me want little boy babies that look just like him RIGHT NOW! Haha. 

Sigh. And I'm only 22. I don't know why the heck I'm in such a hurry.