Post # 1
I could use a little help making a decision..
My FSIL just had her first baby. She and I are quite close, we have known eachother for over 9 years, but as well as I know her, I don’t know what to get for a baby gift.
A few things to point out are that her brother and I live in another country, and she has very expensive taste. So I would imagine she would have most everything and in the best quality. I am not sure as to whether I should send her money or order a pre-made gift basket or try to pick and choose individual items, have a relative make a basket and mail them to her? My family also lives in another province, so that wouldn’t be the easiest thing to do. Also, if she already has some of the items or just doesn’t care for them, returning them may be difficult.
I would prefer to get actual gifts as it is more personal, IMO, but also, with money, she can just buy what she wants and or needs.
Any good suggestions from new moms? Would it be better to give her money as opposed to choosing what I would be assuming she needs, or is that too impersonal?
Thanks for any opinions.
Post # 3
Use this link and see if there’s a paint it yourself pottery store near her. I used to work at one and there wasn’t a parent who didn’t love adorable baby footprints on a piece of pottery. I gave a gift certificate to a couple recently and was told it was the best present they got so far.
Post # 4
I can say from experience that when it comes to a baby, a gift is so much more fun to receive than money. It is just so sweet to see all the little baby stuff. Maybe give them something more decorative and less functional? Do you know the baby’s name? Maybe a plaque or sign to hang in his/her room with their name painted on it, or some monogrammed bibs or onesies? I loved seeing stuff with my baby’s name on it when I was pregnant because it made her feel like a “real person.” A friend monogrammed some bibs for me and I cried when I opened them because it was such a personal gift. And sweet little stuffed animals for the nursery are always welcomed.
Post # 5
I think that an embroidered baby blanket is a nice idea. I have sent this Pottery Barn Kids blanket to several friends, and they loved it. I’m not sure if PB ships international, but you could always have it shipped to you and then you could box it up and send it to her with a heartfelt card.
Post # 6
When my husband’s sister in law was expecting we knew we wanted to gift them one of the bigger ticket items. Either a stroller or car seat. So we called them up and asked them if they had a brand or model they preferred. Which they did so we took that information and purchased one online to be shipped direct to them.
Post # 7
I’d say money. Your far away plus if you think she’ll already have everything she’ll need then why buy her something that she may not need, want or already have? I feel like it’s a waste of money to buy people presents if you don’t know for sure they want or need something.
Post # 8
Did she have a baby shower of any kind? Perhaps she’s registered somewhere, and you aren’t aware of it? Can you send her an email or call her and ask if she’s registered? (or ask her hubby)?
Post # 9
I really hate the idea of money between family.
There are so many baby things that are needed and they don’t have to be the best quality. Little things like feeding spoons, outlet covers, etc all those things add up.
Does she have a registry so you can get ideas?
Post # 10
i would only give money to family if they’re not well off, which it doesn’t sound like the case here. get her somethign meaningful…pp’s have great suggestions!
Post # 11
I’ve also put together a “baby’s first library” package with 5 or 6 of my favorite children’s books. I write a dedication to the baby in the front covers. That has always been a big hit.
Post # 12
@mightywombat– that’s a really cute idea, too!
Post # 13
If you want to get her cute baby stuff, I feel like etsy might be good for this- even if it’s not super expensive, the fact that it’s unique and handmade gives the items their own kind of cachet, so you don’t have to worry about whether it’s up to her expensive tastes. True that you can’t really return it, but if it’s clothes or toys or something that she doesn’t NEED, I feel like she’ll be less likely to return it anyhow. You could get her clothes for a slightly older age (I’ve heard friends say that they had tons of newborn clothes from showers, etc. but once they needed sizes 6 months and up, their resources were a lot more limited) or some nice handmade wooden toys or something. My father-in-law’s go-to baby gift is really nice handmade wooden bookends, since he figures other people probably got the baby tons of books 🙂
Post # 14
Since it sounds like she has such specific tastes I’d vote for cash, it’s a gift no one ever turns down. 😉
Post # 15
Thanks for all the great suggestions! I think the suggestion about something with the baby’s name is a great idea. I think maybe I’ll do that. I’ll get her something sentimental and then give her a gift certificate too.
So many great suggestions and links. Thanks so much!