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Ok I apologise for the horrible title of the thread but I have to get you attention somehow!! hahaha

So Ill let you know that my FI has shown little to no interest in planning the wedding. he has left the whole thing up to me...until last night. When I came home from work he was grinning ear to ear. And I asked his what was up. He brought me into the office and showed me a youtube clip of a cute little couple dancing in their first dance and then the music cuts out as if it is "skipping" and then all you hear is "OH MY GOD BECKY LOOK AT HER BUTT"

Yes yes, my FI wants to have a surprise first dance and break out into dance to "Baby Got Back". Dont get me wrong, I think its a funny idea, I think it would be hilarious. But Im also embarassed out of my mind to dance to the song in front of all 125 guests. we have older guests in attendance and I dont know...I think im making exscuses because im so nervous and embarassed to do it, LOL!

But heres the thing, its really important to my FI (Laugh now) but he even said "Baby, I havent asked for anything in the wedding, and ive let you choose everything...I really want to do this for me. This is my personality to be silly and I would really love to do it. it means a lot to me"...

Sighhhhhhhhhh now im stuck....I want to make him happy butttt.....*no pun intended!* HA

Do you think you can convince him to do a more tasteful song? That way you can still do the surprise dance to make him happy and you won't be so embarrassed. I wish I had some suggestions for you! Maybe something more old-fashioned? That song really does objectify you and it's very sexual--older guests might be embarrassed for you, or even offended!

I know that he said in the REALLY explicit parts that he would bleep it, but I dont know...

@sewing - HA! You know it, i dont do anything half assed!

Actually to be honest if we had ALL young guests attending I would have no issue. I just imagine my grandmother being there and dear lord my BOSS is attending....AND MY BOSS's BOSS!

Oh dear...now I REALLY dont want to do it

@sewing...yeah I think so too. maybe that can be the compromise ... uhg

@soontobeemrsm - I also think they probably saw the same video XD I think its a pretty highly viewed video. Yeah if you REALLY listen to Baby Got Back....its VERY raunchy...and Im just not into that...

@vfoster03- I think thats a great idea, thats the most I think im willing to compromise.

Its honestly not because Im shy, I actually used to do theatre and drama, I love performing, just not to songs that go into detail about raunchy sex!

The problem with this is also is his family is from Japan and VERY PROPER especially his Dad, I dont think his mother would care she would find it humorous but still. Im going to try to see if he will compromise and pick a mix of songs? But knowing him I dont think he will budge.....

DO IT!!!!! This is what I do for a living, choreograph first dances, they can be SO FUN and APPROPRIATE! Plus, it's really fun for the two of you to work on it together. PM me if you need any help, suggestions, or anything!

ps of course FI and I will be rocking it out with an old school hip hop medley! :) pps FI doesn't dance so it will be interesting and entertaining! :)

Honestly, I think it's overdone...  This is the original "surprise" first dance, it was great then, but now I'm tired of seeing everyone trying to copy it... 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vqiw-Kqtlr0

CCSR- Yeup thats the video he showed me

Def think about getting it choreographed for sure-- and while I think maybe this video is overdone, choreographed dances are not and definitely do you own style, don't copy it. I think that while we're obsessed with wedding world, guests not so much, so it will be new and exciting for them AND if you do your own thing, you'll be much more comfortable and really shine!

Habibah14- There ya go, I agree if it was choreographed I would feel better too but....we are 26 days away from the wedding and there is no way we can pay for a choreographer both on the time constraint and money. He wants to choreograph it andddd my FI has two left feet we should just say,

I guess I already answere my question its just im so conflicted lol!

I just PMed you-- check it out :) Hope that helps! Go with simple, silly, and fun old school moves. Nothing dirty, just fun. They are easy to do and so fun! Check out the boyz II men video on my site www.adance2remember.com -- they said everyone loved it and so easy to learn. I think you could pull it off in a little under a month... I've had people do it in 2 weeks and more complex choreography with no dance experience! You're free to use whatever for inspiration! let me know if I can help out more :) GOOD LUCK!!!!!

***UPDATE***

So FI finally compromised and we will have a break out dance to the "Austin Powers Theme" which I think can be cute and silly. as embarassing as it will be, its important to him to be a little silly. so i will let up ;)