Baby name sharing (this is long, sorry!)

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: Should couples share baby names, or is it too risky?
    Share with everyone, and ignore everyone's opinions : (15 votes)
    9 %
    Share with everyone, but tailor baby names toward popular opinion : (0 votes)
    Share w/a limited circle of people that are very important to the couple, & ignore their opinions : (25 votes)
    16 %
    Share w/a limited circle of people that are very important to the couple, & tailor names to opinions : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Only share with one or two people the couple considers are 'safe' : (24 votes)
    15 %
    Don't share with anyone. This is a private and intimate decision only to be made by mom & dad. : (71 votes)
    44 %
    Wait until you have THE name picked out, people won't poo poo a name you've already 'settled' on! : (21 votes)
    13 %
    Other (explain!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 5
    Member
    1625 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @TwoStatesBride:  I disagree with your mom to an extent..I mean yes people will have an opinion on whatever you name the kid, but I think after the decision is already made, people are much more likely to accept and not ever think about it again than harp on it. I mean think about it, have you ever met someone and then forevermore thought about how much you disliked their name and you yourself would never name someone that, and how its soo horrible etc etc? I know I haven’t, beyond my maybe very first thoughts. At the point that the baby is ALREADY named, and people are finding out about it after they are born or as they are being introduced, its just HOW IT IS, it can’t/won’t be changed, etc. I think your dad is in the minority for people CONTINUING to talk about what someone named their kid.

    Post # 6
    Member
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My DH and I have talked a lot about this, too as his mom is SUPER outspoken and judgmental. (We aren’t pregnant and probably wont TTC for a year or 2). We think we will probably keep it a secret for the most part. We may tell some family (siblings) or close friends, but we want to keep it under wraps for the most part.

    My sister is pregnant now and ahs been telling everyone the baby’s name for months. She figures people will love it or hate it regardless (but, the only person who said it was terrible was my MIL, of course). She has way thicker skin than I do. 🙂

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    6744 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We told our parents but no one else.  None of the parents said anything negative.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Nope, we will keep the names to ourselves!

    Post # 11
    Member
    6744 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    TwoStatesBride  I am sure it does depend on the family.  We also said “the baby’s name will be XYZ”- as in for sure.  We did not say- “we are thinking about these names”- because it leaves it open for suggestions.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Tell no one.  And if anybody asks, just tell them that you and DH are still discussing it.

    And since I feel a need to hop up on my soapbox, why the f*ck is it anybody else’s business?  Really?!  If I want to name my son Sue, I’ll name him Sue, and I don’t need family or friends telling me otherwise.

    /RantOver.  Sorry.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I told everyone because I have a thick skin and don’t give a shit basically, haha. If I like something someone telling me they don’t or it’s stupid or insert negative comment here doesn’t bother me in the least. I find it annoying when people are all ” oh it’s a secret!” It’s a baby’s name ffs not the answer behind who was really on the grassy knoll. 

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