posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I don’t share our name choices. That way, if someone uses it, it’s because they like the name and they found it on their own. I don’t think that there is a such thing as “stealing” a name. There are thousands of babies born each year with the same name. Pretty much nothing is unique anymore. My brother and my cousin where born on the same day and my aunt took the name my mom wanted for my brother. My cousin was born six hours before my brother. Did that stop my mom? Heck no, they both have the same exact name. And no one mixes them up in the family because they know they are two seperate people. If you are worried about name stealing, just don’t share the name.

Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think name “stealing” is a silly concept!

My sister is “Nicole”, and our cousin six months younger is “Jessica Nicole”

They were BEST FRIENDS growing up because they shared a name (even though it was my cousin’s middle name)

When we thought we were having a boy, we were considering “Quinn Ryan (Lastname)”, only to remember that I have a MUCH younger (like 18 years younger) cousin whose name is “Quinn (no middle name) Ryan”! (Ryan is a family last name)

I told his Mom, and she was like “It’s a GREAT name! You should totally name your baby Quinn Ryan, too!”

Post # 5
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think the whole idea is silly. No one owns a name.

Post # 6
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Those who have baby first get to use baby name first.

If you already have a name chosen, don’t share it with anyone.

If someone close to you uses that name before you , too bad for you.


Post # 7
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think the idea of name “stealing” is a little silly, but I understand the emotions. 


FH and I have had our names for two girls and two boys picked out for almost two years now. We’re completely settled and both have emotional attachments to them. I’ve had the name of my first born daughter picked out since I was little. If FH’s sister was to get pregnant first and name her son Henry Walter _____ or use the girl name.. I would be crushed. Honestly, I would want to go ahead and use it like we had planned, but she would be so catty about it that it would make it impossible. We aren’t telling anyone our names, ever. But I almost wish all the women in the family of childbearing age could just get together over tea and “call” names and sign contracts. 🙂 


Post # 8
29 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

This has happened to me! I have a sweet family member who’s first name is Emma. She doesn’t go by this name, but I’ve always wanted to name a daughter after her. One of my husband’s friends had a baby recently who she named Emma. It’s also a family name for her. She had no idea I loved this name and wanted to use it, so I don’t hold it against her. But it’s made me think about chosing another name when we have kids. Also, it’s gotten super popular recently, so I may want to pick something a little more unique since we also have a very common last name that’s almost as bad as Smith. 

Post # 9
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@Jessicachantal:  I’ve never had this problem because I am never pregnant at the same time as anyone close to me. However, I think it would irritate me a little if my sister named her daughter the same name as my daughter..but I wouldn’t say anything about it

Post # 10
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yes!! My FH’s brother and sister in law said their baby boy’s name started with a “D.” I had always wanted to name my potential future son Declan. Of course, that’s what their name ended up being. Oh well. I doubt I’ll ever say anything…they didn’t know I loved the name!

I was the only person to guess correctly though in the months prior to his birth too!

Post # 11
2740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Nobody owns a name.  Keep the name to yourself until birth if you’re worried about having it “stolen”.  That way if anybody beats you to the punch they didn’t steal it, they just have good taste. 

I wouldn’t pay any mind to somebody calling dibs on a name I liked.  It wouldn’t stop me from naming my child whatever I wanted.

Post # 12
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

We aren’t sharing our chosen names with anyone until the baby is born and assigned their moniker.  That way there is no way anyone can “steal” our names and we don’t have to hear any negativity about the names we choose until after the birth certificate has been signed and sealed and the name is official.

Post # 13
6632 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good Lord really?  As pp stated no one “owns” a name.  The concept is just silly. 

Post # 14
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is a silly concept. When bees post about this I usually just ignore it because the have no way of knowing that someone actually stole a name. Maybe they were considering the name as well but they just didn’t tell anyone.

Post # 15
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I haven’t told anyone the name we LOVE for our future son – my DH let it slip at a family dinner a while ago but I dont think anyone really remembers.  However if my pregnant SIL ends up naming her son that name, I would be upset because we wouldnt be able to name our son that – mainly because my SIL and her husband would go around saying we copied the name from them EVERY time we saw them.  Its not something i want my future son to have to deal with.

However if a friend named their kid the name we love, i would still name my son that name.

Post # 16
1389 posts
Bumble bee

We don’t share our favorites for this very reason. It may seem silly to some, but my aunt swiped my sister’s name a month before she was born. My parents had decided on names very early on but unfortunately, they had a miscarriage. When they were expecting again, they were still set with the same names. My mom told her SIL what the girls’ name was after she asked….and then when her baby was born a month earlier, she used the name my mom had told her. Maybe it’s silly to say that you can ‘steal’ a name, but you can definitely be a huge bitch and use a name that you know someone else is planning to name their child. Personally, it’s not a huge deal if your friends have kids with similar/same names but first cousins would be a little weird. Anyway, I had two names picked out when I was like 18 and my sister teased that she was going to steal my girl name if I didn’t use it first. She’s 8 years older than me, so obviously I was in no position to counter. Luckily she didn’t need to use it, but you’d think she’d be more aware of how nasty that is given her own naming situation.

So yeah, people will tell you it’s silly or that they didn’t even think about it. But the truth is, if you’re having a baby and you happen to know anyone else who is pregnant, I wouldn’t share names with them because they might very well nab them first.

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