Post # 1
Darling Husband and I aren’t ready to TTC yet but Darling Husband already picked his baby name for a son (Sebastian). And, I just picked one for a girl (Penelope). On Monday, I had lunch with my pregnant BFF and dicusssed her unborn baby’s names and mentioned my two baby names. Today, her brother who had already decided on Keira…just named his baby girl, Penelope. Coincidence or what? I’m slighted but I’m not going to say anything about it. I don’t have a baby to name one! lol
So what is the etiquette? If you like a name do you have to announce to everyone within your social circle?
Update: I’ll be keeping our future baby names as our own little secret then!
Post # 3
@mnp: if you like a name, you’re better off keeping it to yourself and not reminding anyone else that it exists!!! Darling Husband and I will be finding out the gender of our little bean in about three weeks, and that’s a common time to announce what you’re going to name it. I’m not sure I want to do that, for stupid superstitious reasons, but I know that until I announce THIS IS MY BABY AND ITS NAME WILL BE _____, then I haven’t really claimed the name!
Post # 4
@mnp: you can’t call dibs on a baby name. Esp if you aren’t preggers.
We’re preggers now, and I’m not breathing a WORD of what his name is to anyone, nor have I, for severl months while ttc because I didn’t want anyone to fall in love with it and use it.
Names are first come first serve.
Post # 5
unless it’s the same name as your sibling’s kid, I don’t feel it’s close enough to matter. no one can call dibs on a name ever really. there are thousands of penelopes and sebastians out there so don’t sweat it. in the course of having and raising a child, there are more concerns than she/he has the same name as someone you know.
Post # 6
@mnp: No such thing as dibs, ESPECIALLY if you aren’t even pregnant. The only thing you can do is to keep quiet and hope she doesn’t end up picking the name. I definitely wouldn’t announce it.
Post # 7
My dream baby girl name is Penelope too. You don’t get dibs if you’re not pregnant, and even if you are, the one who is born first gets the name. It’s not so bad to have two either!
Post # 8
Nope, can’t call dibs unless you are pregnant. Keep all your future baby names to yourself and Darling Husband so nobody “steals” them.
Post # 9
We don’t have “dibs” for this in my social circle.
The thing we do is keep our name ideas to ourselves so we don’t risk our friends hearing us talk about it and later being like “oh, actually, I don’t remember where I heard this name, but doesn’t “JoyasChoice” sound good?”
We’ve got 1 boy name we’re sure on (we’ve known it for years), and 1 girl name we’re 80% on, no bun in the oven of any kind yet, and nobody else in our circle has chosen those names so far. It could happen by chance though, because while they are not in the top 20 names or anything, they are also not highly unusual either. If that does happen, we’ll just have to think about whether we want to still go with that name or brainstorm another one that’s just as good or better. We haven’t really tried “name-storming” yet, the two names we came up with so far were just from our idle chatter over the years. I’m sure we could come up with many more good ones, so we’re not worried!
Also, consider this, you might not even have a child of that gender!
Post # 10
I don’t think you can. But as someone who is pregnant I haven’t shared what we’re naming our daughter with anyone!!! People are pissed about it but who cares? You’re better off not saying what you want to name your kiddos. Once someone hears a name it’s fair game.
Post # 11
No, I think anybody may choose a name they love, REGARDLESS of where they heard it. To me it is easy. Hear name, Love name, Give baby name. the majority of names get used over and over again. Personalities and faces are unique. that is what defines a person. Not just a name. So I always said I love the name Emma… That is what I will name my daughter… Another friend who knew this and had her daughter a month before me named her Emma. I still named my daughter Emma and there was another friend who had her Emma three years after us. Not a big deal. Some people can really become upset, but no one has dibbs on a name…. Unless you hadit copyrighted…
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You can’t call dibs on a name. It’s best to keep name ideas to you and your spouse until the child is born.
A friend of mine told her sister names she liked before she was pregant. Well I guess sister #2 thought my friend was done having kids (she had 4) so she named her next dog one of the names. No matter, my friend ended up pregnant with another child and named that child the same name as sister #2’s dog.
Post # 13
Personally, I’ve been very shady about our name choices. Even being pregnant now and knowing I’m having a girl, we’re still not announcing her name to anyone. Partially for superstitious reasons but also because I know two people who are pregnant with girls right now who are due before me and I’m not gonna lie, I’d be pretty bummed if they “stole” my name.
On another note, my good friend told me her boy and girl name choices when she was pregnant last year and she ended up having a boy. When we were going through baby names, Darling Husband suggested their girl choice name and I immediately said no. He suggested it without even knowing that was their name choice. Although technically she can’t have ‘dibs’ on it, I would’ve felt wrong about using that name when I knew how they would’ve (and still want to, if they have one) name their baby girl that
Post # 14
@joya_aspera: Very true! I wasn’t diehard on the name anyway. I think I felt more slighted that the idea was taken away so quickly. Oh, well!
@MrsDTMajor: You’re one smart mama!
@Katie Koekblik: Ah, I’m pretty sure this couple will take it the wrong way if I name my future offspring as such. But it’s ok…I’m sure when I have baby there will be a name for her. There’s sooo many!
Post # 15
Nope. And this is why Darling Husband and I never even thought about or discussed baby names until I was actually pregnant.
Post # 16
My coworker stole mine. Who knew she would meet a guy after a couple months and get preggo. She then stole my name and the baby is now 3…still boils my blood. Like Charlotte on SATC when Lainey stole her baby name. Now, I just keep names to myself to avoid getting upset.