Post # 1
So, since we are finding out the gender of our little one in 2 weeks, DH and I have started seriously discussing names. We currently have one agreed-upon girl name and one boy name. We’re not stopping there, but that’s where we are currently sitting.
Now, I have one of those names that was popular in my generation, so there were always 3 others in my class at school. I always hated having a common name. AND, mine wasn’t even top 10 common, it was #14 in 1988 when I was born. I always vowed that I wouldn’t name my kids something really popular or common so that they didn’t have to deal with being one of a few for their whole lives. (I mean, at one point myself, my best friend and my brother’s girlfriend all had the same name. Ugh.)
What brings this all up is that the girl’s name that we have so far is #37 for 2010 (and #24 in the state we are from). I always said I would stay out of the top 100, so I am struggling with that.
In your opinion, how popular is too popular for you? Do you want your kids to have super unique names? Do you not care? Are you staying away from the top 10, 20 or 50? What do you think?
(The name is question is Layla, by the way.)
Post # 3
@zippylef: I care somewhat, because my name is Jennifer, i.e., the most common name for a girl between 1979-1981. I was born in 80. So you can imagine what every class was like for me. Not just one or two other Jennifers. Usually more like 3 or 4. I couldn’t even be “Jennifer H” (my maiden name also started with an H) because there would also always be a Jennifer Holmes and a Jennifer Hunt. And we all moved up into the next grade together. So I could never really escape the Jennifers!
I have always said I want my children to have really different names for that reason. My husband, however, is in love with the name Taylor for a girl. I think that’s pretty common, but he’s been so set on it, ever since I met him (he picked that name even before he met me, with the middle name Leigh. Which, ironically, is my middle name.) So that will be our name for a girl. I’ve grown to love it because he loves it so much, and while it’s more common, I love it enough and think it’s so pretty, that I really don’t care.
My boy name is Nash Michael. So at least I’ll have one child that won’t have too many other people with his name;)
And even if you pick a name that’s not too popular now, all it takes is a celebrity or somoeone to name their child something, and then it just takes off like wildfire. So you could not use the popular name you love, and use another more “original” name, and when your baby is 2 years old, Kim Kardashian has a kid and names it your baby’s name, and BAM! There 60 gillion babies with the same name as yours.
I say that because my girl name is Harper, which we’d use if we had more than one girl. And Posh and David Beckham had to go name their daughter Parker Seven, so by the time I have a 2nd daughter, there will be a ton of Parkers roaming around everywhere!
Post # 4
I think if a name is classic enough, i wouldn’t mind if it’s hugely popular. personally, i would want to stay away from ‘trendier’ names. but i wouldn’t mind something that’s been pretty timeless throughout recent generations (ie. michael, benjamin etc.). i think it would also help steer me away from names that would seem ok for a child, but weird to me for a senior citizen.
but bottom line, i’d say go with your gut 🙂
Post # 5
@jholler25: Just as a side note, my cousin’s name is Tayla. Could be a nice compromise on Taylor, and a lot less common (and a lot prettier, I think!)
My name (Suzanne) was pretty UN-popular for my birth year (1987). I only know one other Suzanne, and of course she was in my grade! I still don’t hear my name a lot anywhere.
As far as the popular names, I think DH and I are set on two very popular ones as well. We are doing totally original middle names though, so it makes up for it in my mind!
(Grew up, fell in love, got engaged, got married closeby on Drake’s Island in Wells, Maine – a very special place for us!)
Post # 6
I’m an Ashley born in 1984, so I know what you mean about popular names. 🙂
The thing is, though, having a very popular name didn’t scar me for life or anything. It’s just an inconvenience (and really only through grade school, no one had to call me Ashley H. in high school although there were actually more Ashleys there). And I much prefer having a common name that everyone knows how to pronounce/spell than a complicated/unique/strangely spelled name that I have to explain to everyone.
My husband and I have picked out a name that we consider “normal” but not super common, but not rare or anything either (Kara). I think Layla falls into that same middle-ground category. We are paying less attention to the actual # for the names we like and more about whether we know other kids with that name. FWIW, I think the name Layla is so pretty and would consider it for our future child except that my husband’s cousin has a Leila (who is the most adorable thing I’ve ever met).
Post # 7
In my generation, it seems like most people kept family names, so many were named after an Grandfather or Great Aunt, or a favorite relative somewhere in the line. I think I grew up with more boys who had the same names than girls,tho. Lots of Johns and Joes and Bobs, but very few Andrews or Ryans or Adams (if any, and if there were, they always had nicknames).
My Mom named us so we would never have nicknames or have them shortened, and it was almost a guarantee it wouldn’t happen in a Catholic school. The nuns always called you by your proper name, so even now, I cringe when somebody automatically assumes I have a nickname. (Can you tell it’s a pet peeve?) Anyway, we were all the ‘only’ ones in our classes with our names, and they weren’t even unusual.
When MY kids were born, people seemed to be on a whole different path with child naming, and lots were suddenly being named after soap opera stars or named after popular songs. I was guilty of naming one of mine after an actress, and the other was a name I’d heard a co-worker mention as being her daughter’s (but hers was a family name). The beautiful part of each of their names is that they never went to school with anyone with the same name, so people they ran into years later always remembered them.
Most people have a name they’ve loved for many years before they have kids, but sometimes find out their spouse isn’t a fan. If they are, it’s a bonus!
I definitely shied away from the most popular, but picked names that while unique to the times, weren’t completely off the wall or odd. I agree with a PP who said to go with what you love.
Post # 8
Well, my full name is Katie (not short for anything). It seemed to be that everyone had a variation of Katie when I was growing up (Katherine, Kaitlyn, etc.), and the nicknames for those were Katie. (My brother had the same problem with his name being popular) So I went to school where there were close to 12 “Katie’s” in my grade. But, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed that I don’t know as many Katie’s, and I think that will go for any name. At first there may be a ton, but once the child gets into college and the working world, there’s such a mix of ages and names that it doesn’t matter.
I think you should go on what you like and what feels “right”, instead of what’s popular at the time. 🙂
ETA: I can’t wait to find out what you’re having!! So exciting!
Post # 9
First of all, congrats!
I wouldn’t worry about the name being too popular if you like the name. I am personally a fan of giving children classic names that are not too trendy. I know quite a few people that have given their children these more trendy names because they think they are unique… but I suspect many of them will end up being just as popular as “Jennifer” in the 80s.
Post # 10
My name was suuuper popular in the 80s and there were always a few in my class. It never really bothered me. It helped that my parents had no idea it was popular when they named me. I would just go with what you love.
Post # 11
I always told myself we wouldn’t name our baby anything too popular but the names FH and I chose for our future babies, are pretty popular. We chose Ava Elise for a girl and Jack Ryan for a boy. We really like the names so I’ve looked past the popularity of them 🙂
Post # 12
Aw, I love Layla! I have a niece named Laela Jane! I agree with @twodoghouse:, I think Layla will be a good middle-ground name–not rare, but not super common.
FWIW, I’m a Sarah born in 1985. There was always at least 2 other Sarah/Sara’s in every class until I graduated high school. It never bothered me. We thought it was kind of fun. I love my name.
I think if you love the name, you should use it, even if it’s #1.
Post # 13
I agree with PPs… go with whatever you love. FWIW, I grew up the only “Vanessa” in my entire school (small town, lol) and I loved it that I had a name that no one else had, and that no one could easily make fun of (the closest anyone got was “nessie” which was from “Loch Ness Monster” but it was such a strech it didn’t stick (and it was funny!). Even if there had been others, my parents always told me they named me Vanessa because it means “butterfly” and that made it special for me 🙂
We named our little girl Abigail. I know it’s common, but I’ve always loved that name so we used it despite its popularity.
And Layla is absolutely beautiful!
Post # 14
I love the name Connor and always have. It was the only other name that DH and I agreed on. However I refuse to name my child anything that is on the top 100 list, let alone the top 50 list. We ended up chosing something that is like in the 400’s. Here is a link by state to see what is most popular.
Post # 15
I was born in 1989 with the name Amanda. I can’t tell you how many were in my graduating class…..it was rediculous. My sister had a friend named Amanda and also her best friends little sister was named Amanda. I had three friends named Amanda and I hated when I had another Amanda in my class and when someone would say my name I would always turn around! By the time I was in High School I ignored every first time someone said my name because it most likely wasn’t for me lol. It’s hard when you really like a name though. I hated how there were so many of my name so I want to try and give my kid an old name or a unique name.
Post # 16
@katiesee: I always think about the exact. same. thing. I wonder what it will be like when all of the Jadens and Cadens and Braedens get old and are running around the nursing home. It just doesn’t make sense in my mind and probably won’t until I see it.