Post # 1
Did any bees have a baby nurse when you brought your baby home?
My mom, who is super excited for her first grandbaby, actually offered to pay for us to have one for the first 1-2 weeks we bring LO home. She had one when she had me, but I’m a twin, so I think there was more of a reason to have one.
My DH’s aunt suffered servere PPD and they hired a nurse to take on the nighttime feedings, and I think that helped her a lot because it took the pressure off of having to wake up every 2 hours.
While I think it would be wonderful to have some sleep and help around the house, I feel like I would be missing out on some serious bonding time.
Looking for other bees opinions. If money were not an issue, would you hire a baby nurse?
Post # 3
I am not a mother though I have many friends that are. I raised my godson from when he was a wee one, so I’ve been through many feedings in the middle of the night.
I wouldn’t hire a nurse. If I had a family member who was around to help, that’s one thing. A strange nurse who I have to pay? Nope. Not even if I had all the money in the world.
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of hiring a nurse. I have heard of hiring a postpartum doula to help out.
I personally wouldn’t, I want all the baby time I can get! Also, if you are breastfeeding, you don’t want to skip feedings because it can lower your milk supply!
Post # 5
I don’t have kids, but everyone I know has had a baby nurse! It definitely makes the first week much easier. You have an expert around to show you the best ways to do things and it even gives you a chance to get some sleep at night!
Post # 6
@ExcitedScaredBee: Hm…when I was in the moment, maybe. Actually, my mom offered to come over and do some nighttime feedings. I was nursing, so I wasn’t willing to let go of more than one in a row because I didn’t want to hurt production, but I had her come over one day (DH was sick with the flu and staying at my parent’s house) and it was great.
Looking back (not that we don’t still have our nights, my little guy is only 11 weeks), even though I was beyond exhausted, I already miss some of those times with my guy. I wouldn’t have wanted to just give over responsibility completely. However, having someone around to help for a week or two to take a feed here and there, or help reassure me that things were normal, or provide strategies, would be kind of nice. So I guess I’d say go for it if you want, but make sure to remain involved.
And don’t worry, sleepless nights will last far longer than a week or two. Actually, to be honest, the first couple of weeks were way easier than the next few, so keep that in mind.
Post # 7
Must vary a lot based on the area – I’ve never heard of this! Though there is a baby concierge service near me that will do just about anything to help you out with baby/child related things but of course it costs a pretty penny and I’ve never known anyone that used it.
Post # 8
@ExcitedScaredBee: I think baby nurses are becoming a bit more common. And in several Asian cultures, it’s SUPER comon to hire a woman to come to your house for a full 1 month after the birth for both baby AND mother care, because in those same cultures, the mommies aren’t supposed to be up and doing too much the first month.
Personally, if I could afford it, I would sign up in a second! I wouldn’t want someone there 24/7, but even if they just came a few hours a day to cook something delicious/watch the baby for a bit/let me rest/give me tips on nursing/burping/whatever—I would do it!
Post # 9
No I wouldn’t. With dd that was our bonding time. Its part of being a mother. I can’t imagine not having that time with her.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t. I think it is bonding time and I think it also teaches a great deal of responsibility and communication between the husband and wife (who will get up to feed baby if you have to bottle feed and what not).
Post # 11
I wouldn’t have a nurse full on for two weeks but I am considering hiring help for a few days or perhaps one night a week. Some support.
Post # 12
I was lucky as to have my mother stay with me for a few days to help. My husband had work up north for a week so I would have been all by myself. I had a cesarean and was breastfeeding so it was helpful for her to bring me the baby because I would struggle to sit up sometimes. She had a cesarean three times so she knows all about it. She also helped with cleaning, cooking and teaching me on how to care for the baby. I am very thankful to her, she also got much needed granny bounding time which she loved.
I guess if I had no one to help me, I would probably look into hiring a nurse. You could probably work something out as to where you can get plenty of bonding time with the baby.
Post # 13
I had my Mother come over a few times (ok every day) for the first few weeks. As pp said as much as the midnight feedings were exhausting they were also awesome bonding time (even though the first few weeks i hated them)
Post # 14
I don’t think I would need a nurse to help me with baby care. I’m pretty comfortable with that end of things… but if I had the money, I would definitely hire a full time housekeeper and/or cook!! Not pregnant yet (hopefully by this summer!), but I’ve been talking to my mom about this very thing and basically begged her to come out for a few weeks when baby does come.
Post # 15
@ExcitedScaredBee: Its fairly common where I live for new mothers to have this.
Some just have a hight nurse who comes in the evening and sleeps with the baby and does everything and just gives the baby to you when you need to breastfeed, (not sure if thats what your planning).
Other people get a full time maternity nurse who is there all day, all night caring for mother and helping her care for baby.
DH is quite keen on this idea too, but we have decided we will wait and see. If we feel we do need one it is easy to get one from a reputable agency after birth. Also, I have my mother near by so she has offered to stay for a week or so and essentially be a night nanny for us.
Good luck, its a wonderfully generous offer 🙂