Baby or pet first?

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a dog for 4 years before my DD was born. He doesn’t particularly like children. He seems annoyed by them. He’s not aggressive he just isn’t interested. He was very protective of me during my pregnancy and after my DD was born he became obsessed w her. He sleeps outside her closed bedroom door every night and when she wakes up he stands up and wags his tail waiting for someone to open the door. Its adorable and so surprising due to his history of being aloof w kids! He still doesn’t like other children and when other babies or kids come over he just stays in his crate or on the couch out of the way. If a child approaches he just walks away. When my daughter comes near him he wags his tail, licks her hand and is all over her.

That being said; babies and dogs are both a lot of work and stressful. Once you have a baby you probably won’t want a dog bc you’re so busy and consumed w the baby. I would probably get the dog first and then have the baby since you aren’t planning to TTC for a few weeks/months yet anyway. In my opinion you’d rather have your dog house broken and used to you and your H before adding a baby. If not then you could wait until your kids are a bit bigger (4/5ish) and get a dog then.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

Since you’re considering getting a dog that is kid-friendly, I don’t see any reason why you need to postpone it until after you have a baby. A dog requires attention, of course, but the mandatory things that need to be done with a dog are not so taxing that when the baby comes, they can’t be done. I would get a dog first, that way your dog is used to your environment and you two, and then when the baby is born, you can introduce them. If you stick with kid-friendly breeds, there should be no issues.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dog first.

Completly from my experience alone, but I have a hard time thinking about getting any future pets now that I have kids.

Before baby, I had LOTS of time to train our dog into the wonderful pup he is today. He adjusted just fine to our daughter. He has been very affectionate to me during both of my pregnancies. He mostly avoids my DD now (She’s 2.5), and does his own thing.

I just cannot fathom being able to properly train a dog with a small child in the mix. We talk about getting another dog in a few years, but I won’t even consider it until the kids are older. I just cannot see how I would have the time to be a mom and responsibly train a new dog.

Also, the breed of dog we perfer (English Setter) tend to have a puppy stage that lasts about 2 years. I don’t think I could handle that rambunctious, mischeviousness with a baby in tow. lol

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  urchin.
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i vote to get the dog before. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I say get the dog first. I have no experience with introducing a child to the dog because I don’t have kids yet but I know several people who did and it was totally fine. I say to get the dog first because I really believe it helps prepare you for kids. Obviously kids are a lot harder but it teaches you how to be responsible for another life. Dogs teach you patience, which is crucial for kids. My dog has also helped me adjust to not sleeping in since she wakes up at 7:00/7:30am like clockwork to go outside. She’s also taught me that I can’t just pick up and go anymore. If I plan to be gone for the night or even more than a couple hours I have to make arrangements for her, just like I would if I had a child. She has honestly helped me get one step closer to realizing how much time and effort (and love) goes into having to take care of another life.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

SnowInApril:  We got the dog first, still waiting til we get married for the baby

Getting the dog too might make you realize you might want to wait for kids- One couple I know got a dog and pushed back their TTC timeline for years lol 🙂

Also second the PP about the puppy stage..I couldnt imagine getting a puppy and having a baby at the same time…I’ve never had a baby but a puppy is a nightmare alone haha

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

SnowInApril:  Sounds like you decided what you want to do! 

The only downer I could see with getting a dog and TTC right away is that dogs can be high maintenance the first couple of years. You train them and some mature pretty fast but usually the first one/three years are puppy years. Research breeds and try your best to pick one that is low maintenance, low energy, and anything else you want. 

I agree a dog should come before baby but getting a dog and getting baby so close together isn’t always the best plan. Just thought I would throw in my two cents! 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

My best friend got a Golden first with the intention of getting him really well trained before they had a kid. He had separatinon anxiety so they ended up getting another Golden for company. They put tons and tons of money and time into training these dogs. When they were home by themselves they were very well behaved but no matter what they did they still barked and ran around and sometimes jumped when new people came over. They were definitely much improved after several different types of training both at classes and with a trainer that came to their home, but they still had to be put in another room if children came over because they would get excited and knock the kids down. 

Then they had a baby. And the dogs weren’t bad or anything they just were always in the way and wanting to be pet while the baby was nursing or smelling at the baby while she was on the floor or whatever. Especially once the baby started crawling, the dogs were just too much to have in the same room as the baby. So the dogs were banished from the living/dining room with the thought that they could come back when she was old enough to withstand their excitement. Then they got pregnant again. And they realized it would be years before the dogs and kids could really live together. So they had to rehome the dogs. She felt awful about it. But it was absolutely the best deicsion. She really wishes they hadn’t got the dogs in the fist place. They plan on getting a dog when their youngest is about 5 or so and I think that will work much better.

And it’s not just Golden’s or big dogs. Our other friends have the sweetest, best behaved little mutt that’s about 18 lbs. Then they hadf a baby. He did fine with the baby until she started getting more active. Then when she was about a year, she was sitting on the couch and he put his face up beside the couch and she grabbed his ear and he bit her in the face. It just took a few seconds. Parents were right there and she was fine – no scar even. But she’s a baby – she didn’t know any better. And he’s a dog – he was responding to being hurt. So now parents are keeping them apart until she gets a little older.

Personally, after watching these two families, I’m definitely not getting a dog until after hypothetical future child is a little older. Just too much headache!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I say get the dog first!  We are getting married in September and our black lab will be turning 2 in August.  I don’t have children (yet) but we will likely be TTC within the next year or so.  Having never grown up with a puppy or dog, I wasn’t totally prepared for the amount of work training a puppy is!  Our pup had the sharpest teeth and nipped our hands and ankle constantly, peed on the floor frequently (they can’t wear diapers!) and got into EVERYTHING.  There were a few times I questioned why we did this to ourselves.<br /><br />Thankfully, labs are easy to train so we broke him of those bad habits and he listens really well now.  He has spent a lot of time with our niece (who is now 3) and they get along SO well.  He is so gentle with her.  I have no doubt he will be fine around our future children.  I couldn’t imagine going through the puppy training process with a baby or toddler, so I am very happy we got the puppy first!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

IzzyBear:  I totally agree. I feel like having a dog has made me much more responsible, and given me a little taste of having kids. It’s not the same, obviously, but she needs constant attention and care and is so much more dependent than my cats. it feels like I’ve got a little window into what kids will be like and it’s allowed me to train and test myself to prepare. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really don’t think it matters. Golden Retrievers are such fantastic easily trained dogs. And you aren’t pregnant yet, so you can really do whatever you want. If you had like 2 months left and wanted a puppy I’d say you definitely need to wait.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

A friend of mine had a dog before a baby and to get him used to the idea of a baby she downloaded an app that had a baby crying so that the dog would get used to the different sound and also trained him what rooms not to go into (the baby room) very early on so that it wasn’t an all of a sudden “why can’t I go in there?” when they brought their new baby home it was love at first sniff for the dog, they are best friends! 

 

I have no experience in that area but I would say go a dog first… I really feel like having our dog has prepared us a little better for the responsibility that comes with a child.. plus he gives the best cuddles in the world and is always happy to see me! 

 

 

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