Post # 1
My husband and I have been in the “if it happens, it happens” camp (i.e. not using any protection) since February, but last winter we decided we’d try to really “try” around January-February 2012.
Anyway, last week a bunch of our friends went on a mini-vacation together, but I was unable to go because of a huge work project and my husband stayed home as well. I know my husband was bummed to miss out on all the fun – especially after seeing pictures on Facebook, etc. Anyway, last night we were out to dinner with my best friend and she said she’s trying to organize a trip to the Caribbean for February 2012. This morning she sent over some details about a trip our local radio station is planning that we could get in on. It’s a great price and sounds perfect. I know my husband would love to go. (And I wouldn’t’ mind a week vacation either, you know).
HOWEVER, I can’t help but think that I’d like to be pregnant by then. It’s an all-inclusive and I feel like if I went but was pregnant, it’d be a big waste of money because the cost includes alcohol already. Also, I won’t be working after I have a child so I don’t want to plan a big vacation knowing we’ll be dropping down to one salary in the future. But we also have a lot in savings and haven’t been on vacation this year.
So, in essence, I am just torn. Unfortunately, we’re in a little bit of a time crunch because of this radio station deal and would need to book soon. I want to at least wait until next Tues when my period is due, but I’m not sure how much further I can push it off. What would you do? Would you let a hypothetical-hopeful-future pregnancy dictate your vacation plans?
Post # 3
I would still plan on going on the vacation. You have no way of knowing for sure if you’ll be pregnant by then, and even if you are it could be a great last trip before your little one arrives.
I’m pregnant now, and I wish I had planned a vacation to go on before our due date!
Post # 4
I’m actually 100% planning my baby making around vacation. In the grand scheme of things delaying pregnancy a few months is not a huge deal to me. My husband and I want to go on one more luxurious adult vacation before we have kids and it’s all about Club Med : ) This year we had to spend all of our vacation time and money on traveling to friends’ out of town weddings so it wasn’t possible. So, we are planning a big trip for Feb or Mar of 2012 and will start TTC on the trip.
Post # 5
Go ahead and schedule the vacation- I started out thinking like that also, and now here I am a year later and not pregnant. If you get pregnant right away thats fantastic, and I am very jealous, however, if you don’t you will regret the decision not to go.
Post # 6
I kinda feel like you have to keep living life even though there are the constnt ‘what if’ thoughts.
We planed a ski trip (VERY SPENDY) knowing that I was hoping to be pregnant… and if not well then I’d get to enjoy the snowboaring. Luckily the lift ticket was a la carte so I got to save on that part of the trip. But I spent a very expensive week in a mountain town relaxing and EATING when I was about 14 weeks pregnant. AND puking every morning 🙂
Even now there are athetic events I kinda want to do -but I’m also hoping to be pregnant. I went ahead and signed up for soccer and I’ll play until I can’t. If we conceive I’ll have lots a bit of money. If we don’t – I’ll enjoy the soccer season.
Knowing I can’t ‘sit out’ indefinitely. If we don’t get pregnant I’ll be glad I signed up for things 🙂
Just remember how much fun you’ll be having with all your friends! Think of it as a great ‘pre responisbility’ trip and who cares if you are paying a little extra for alcohol you can’t drink. The trip will be awesome and frozen mocktails by the pool doesn’t sound all bad 🙂 Once there is a baby in the picture these trips become more complicated 🙂 (Not extinct 🙂 – just complicated!)
Post # 7
I don’t know, that’s pretty tough. I agree with the others you can’t live your life based on what might happen and put all your plans on hold, but –to be perfectly honest, being on vacation while you’re pregnant can suck (not that is necessarily will, it just can). Husband and I had just gotten back from vacation when I found out I was pregnant. I had been sick almost the whole week (not puking, just uncomfortable, crampy, and had headaches), and I didn’t really drink or do other stuff, not because I was pregnant-I didn’t know- but I didn’t feel up to it. Sleeping through the night in a hotel bed was next to impossible, and the plane ride home was the worst 3 hours of my life (ok not really, but it felt like it at the time).
Also, it was time (that’s an extra week of vacation I could have used for maternity leave) and money that I really, really, really wish we would have saved.
So, looking back, most days I regret going. People have said, that’s good, you probably won’t have another adult vacation in a long time, so that was great you had a chance at this, but honestly, I would rather have had the time and money for the baby and I don’t have very fond memories of the trip. I am telling you this not to scare you or tell you not to go, just saying it might affect you.
Then again, not only are there no guarantees you’ll be pregnant, but there are no guarantees it will negatively affect your experience even if you were. It does sound like a fun trip- hope you are able to do what’s best for you.
Post # 8
Thanks so much for all the advice ladies! You all made such good points and it sounds like we have lots to think about.
Post # 9
I agree with the other ladies. I’m pregnant now, and we had an all-inclusive trip to Cabo planned since before I got pregnant. Sure, I won’t be able to have the alcohol, but I’ll make it up in food 😉 And it will still be fun to hang out with friends regardless if I’m pregnant or not.
Post # 10
I think I’d go on the vacation too. This might be the last opportunity for awhile to hang out with friends without the responsibility of having a child. I’d be bummed not being able to drink but I think you’d be ok. My hubs and I opted not to go on a vacay with friends and I regret it. We were so busy being practical but sometimes you just have to go with what’s fun 🙂
Post # 11
I think you are putting too much stress on it if you are planning around a hypothetical pregnancy too far in advance. Why not just buy the travel insurance, make your plans as if you won’t be pregnant, then see how you feel if you are. If you are feeling good, you can still go and have a great vacation. If you are sick/morning sickness/too far along, you can cancel with no penalty besides the cost of the travel insurance.