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i'm learning that there's never a perfect time where everything is going right to have a baby. i thought we were trying at a good time, and then after we concieved my husband found out that he is having major issues with his colon. i actually took the positive pregnancy test when he was in the hospital. since then he's gone through 2 surgeries and has 2 more big ones to go. unfortunately we don't know when it is yet, i want them to happen soon so he'll be healed up by birth! plus, after surgery he won't be able to lift anything heavy, so that will be hard for us to get everything ready for the baby. even with all of this, we're still thrilled to be pregnant! and we're just going to deal with it. with lots of help from our parents of course.
Im sorry to hear that your husband didnt make it into vet school :( I think if you are financially and emotionally able to have a baby. Are you going to be able to take care of the baby when hes in school, has tests? Can you both financially support a baby and everything that comes with it while he is in school? If so, then go for it if you are both ready!
I am assuming he was trying to get into Guelph's vet school. I still think he should try to apply to other vet schools in Canada. I know couple people who got into the College of Vet Med at the u of s that are P.E.I and Guelph grads. I think he is ever brave to apply as I think the vet programs in Canada are the hardest university programs to get into.
As for baby time, as I have been told by many, many people: There is never a good time for a baby. There will always be something you will want to do before you have the baby.
@colors: Hope they are able to find what is wrong with your husband. I wish him a good recovery.
@colors - i hope they figure it out soon so your hubby can begin to feel better!
@sceeder - he said he looked into the other schools in canada and they said that he had to live in the province for a year before he could apply. i told him to check into saskatchewan again though.
Anyways, now he's talking about going back for a full year (full time classes), and not applying to the other schools until december of 2011... he thinks this may be his only option if he doesn't get into OVC for next fall. i just wanted to cry when he told me that.
@MrsT2Bee: Yeah, I am originally from Ontario. Maybe you do have to live here here a year to go into a graduate program (U of S is bizzare, lets just put it that way). But I am always about finding university loopholes, haha. Applying for grad school in general is so stressful and I couldn't imagine adding in the competitiveness that is vet school. I wish you guys all the luck.
If you guys are set financially you should be fine. I know lots of guys in grad and med school and even some ladies in grad and med school who had kids. I think as a woman it would be a much bigger/harder decision to put that stress on yourself but for a husband....I don't know, they didn't seem too affected.
We would have to wait forever to have kids if I waited for my hubs to finish, he's in dual degree program that takes like eight freaking years. So we're just not waiting for that to be completed, neither of us really see the need, we both make money and have stuff saved so we're going to go for it. Would it be better to wait until residency? Probably not.
ah, I say do it. If the will and love is there, you will be fine. If you weren't ready for a baby and had an oops pregnancy and felt stressed with school and life, it'd be more of an issue. But you can do it now! The best thing for a baby is being loved and cared for by loving parents, and beyond the essentials you don't need a lot of things. :) :) good luck!
Tons of people have babies during and prior to grad school. I'm in med school, about to enter my 3rd year, and I can think of at least 20 people in my class that had kids prior to med school or within the first 2 years. Some schools are really supportive when students have a family and others not so much. If you're both emotionally ready, then I say go for it.
Thanks for your support guys! I'm feeling a lot better now :)
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So I've pretty much had baby fever (or as I discovered the hilarious term thanks to WB - "baby rabies"), for the last 2 years. I constantly try to push it out of my mind, telling myself, "it's not your turn Mrs. T, and it's the wise decision to wait". Well, now the wedding is over, my sister expecting, and I just found out my husband didn't get into grad school. Of all the things that could have popped into my head - the first thing I thought when he told me was "now I have to wait one more year to have babies". We both talked about having kids right from the beginning and knew that we wanted to get married and start our family in our early-mid twenties. I 100% respect his career decision, and he has worked his bum off to get his degree and get to where he is today. He applied to veterinary school, and the way it works up here is basically, whatever school you do your undergrad at owns you. He can't apply to any other schools in Canada, so since he didn't get accepted here in Ontario, he now has to wait another year and apply to schools in the states. He decided to do his DATS and apply to med schools as well as dentistry so that if he applies to the vet school here again, and still doesn't get it, at least he'll have a fall back plan and will hopefully be starting grad school next September in SOMETHING in the medical field.
I don't want him to feel guilty in any way, I am so proud of him for all of his determination (vet school is VERY competitive) - but I can't help but think that this sets us back another year (this is the 2nd year he's gotten rejected)... and I sort of feel... disappointed.
Is it possible to start our family before he's done school? Or am I just being selfish? I'm just heart broken over this. All I've ever wanted is to be a mommy.