Post # 1
My family and friends are planning to throw me a baby shower (a family one and a friend one). I am wondering what etiqutte says about who should be invited. I was thinking that my SILs and MIL would be invited to all. Is that correct? I don’t want to invite them if they think thats too much but I also don’t want to not invite them in case they get offended. ACK! Anyone have a good reference for this?
Post # 3
For a baby shower, you can invite anyone you want. It’s courteous to invite your mother in law since she’s a new grandma too. However most mothers to be only have one shower.
Post # 4
Sometimes each side of the family will throw you a separate one (and invite hubby). If not, then inviting the MIL/SIL is good to have the families get to know each other better.
Post # 5
@stlginkgo: If you were saying that your SIL and MIL have to be invited to both showers, then I would disagree. I think it’s fine to just invite them to the family shower and then have your friends shower be just that…friends. They may also want to host a shower of their own so that they can have more of “their” family attend.
Post # 6
At the same time, there is no reason why you can’t have family *and* friends at one shower combined. Most people do that and don’t have multiple showers. Older folks still go by the proper etiquette that states that no family can host showers of any kind so don’t automatically assume that they will host their own for you and that friends are expected to host/attend a separate event.
Post # 7
I would invite them to the family shower and tell them informally that your friends are also having a shower for you if they are interested to go to that one as well. That way they have the opportunity to go to both if they wish but don’t feel obligated to go to 2 showers.
Post # 8
I don’t think anyone I know has had just one baby shower (or bridal shower). I had a friends one and a family one for the wedding and that’s what’s happening for the baby. We have a big family and lots of friends so it’s not really feasible to combine. And I think if people are kind enough to want to throw one, I’ll accept. That being said, I’m inviting my MIL and SIL to both but don’t expect them to come to both (if they do, that’s fine).