Baby Shower Etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: To go or not to go?
    Don't go to a shower if you're not giving a gift : (69 votes)
    72 %
    You should go anyway because you're family : (27 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Why no gift?  If you can’t afford it, surely you can make something or spend $10 at a used book store on kids’ books.

    If you don’t like them and don’t want to give a gift for that reason, then I wouldn’t go to the shower for the same reason.

    Post # 4
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I don’t understand not giving a gift at all.  Even a card congratulating them would be fine.

    Post # 5
    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Just wondering, why aren’t you giving them a gift?

    Post # 6
    1681 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @likewoah:  Maybe a couple used books from the thrift store? Easily under $5 and it’s something for the baby!

    Post # 7
    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    Can I ask why you’re not giving them a gift?  Making painted wooden letters that spell the baby’s name that match the nursery is super cheap to do, just takes a little bit of time.

    Post # 8
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Why wouldn’t you be giving them a gift? Going to a shower without a gift seems awful tasteless, as does NOT going beacuse you don’t feel like giving a gift.

    Post # 10
    6969 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would either make up a reason that you cannot attend, or suck it up and buy a small gift.

    Post # 11
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Oooooh. I wouldn’t give them a gift, either, in that case!

    I would still probably go, though, unless you can manufacture a REALLY good excuse for why you can’t be there!

    Post # 12
    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 1988

    Okay, so they aren’t acquainted with the “rules of etiquette” regarding milestone acknowledgement. 

    Why would you “punish” the new baby for the parents misstep? 

    Most definitely, I would purchase a baby gift as well as a gift for the older sibling.

    Celebrating the birth of a baby is a joyous occasion and I will always give a gift whether or not it is acknowledged.

    Post # 13
    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I think a card with well wishes would definitely be okay in this instance since they haven’t thanked you for any gift you have given them.

    Post # 14
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d probably just bring a card in this instance!

    Post # 15
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’d go but not bring a gift since they already had a baby shower so idk why they are having another one. 

    Post # 16
    6685 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You are not wrong to feel uninclined to give these people a gift, but showers are really the one occasion where they are indeed an obligation, so I would not attend in that case.  It’s not your place to correct a grown person’s  lack of manners or to call them out, however. 

    If it were me, and I liked the person  or was going to be related, I’d very likely go and give a small gift, anyway. 

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