Baby shower for 2nd baby, tacky?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Baby shower for 2nd baby, tacky or not?
    Tacky! : (77 votes)
    62 %
    Not tacky, totally ok. : (48 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 2
    3217 posts
    Sugar bee

    A shower is a very specific, and mandatory gift giving event.  I do not believe you should have one for any but the first child.

    I am however in support of a meet the baby party once the baby is born.  Every baby can be celebrated, but the setting up of the nursery should be done after the first.

    Post # 4
    44 posts

    I personally think women should have a shower for every baby they have-each ones is a blessing. Even though I was only given one for my 3rd child(1st one was 4 months early & for the 2nd one my friend bailed out on planninglast minute) I am giving my sis a simple diaper party for her 4th.

    Post # 5
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I don’t really get why the first baby is special enough to receive gifts, but the second (3rd, 4th, etc.) baby is not worthy of gifts. Life is short, so celebrate the good stuff as often as it happens.

    Post # 6
    6446 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Honestly, I think there are so many factors that go into this. Were the babies far apart? Are they different genders? Are they multiples?

    I give close family members and friends presents for each baby, shower or not so I don’t care too much. I would just say no if I thought it was a gift grab or if the second shower was for someone I am not particularly close too.

    Post # 7
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think it’s tacky unless the babies are very far apart. you get lots of reusable stuff at showers. Swings, tubs, diaper bags, bottles, bouncy seats, etc. 

    Post # 8
    1049 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I agree that if the babies were extremely far apart, or perhaps from a new relationship (new hubbies family might want to have the experience) it can be okay, but a child 2 years or so after the first one should never have a shower IMO.  A celebration after baby is born is totally fine, but everyone knows you can’t go to a baby shower without a gift so I believe it is gift grabby.  You will get loaded with presents from the family for a second child anyway so there’s no point in it.

    Post # 9
    4134 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If they throw if for themselves yes. Otherwise I find them to be more of a celebration and gathering. Bringing a gift is just polite. I don’t know why people are so touchy about gift giving. I would be buying a gift for any new baby with or without a shower. 

    Post # 10
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

    i think it’s nice to celebrate each child with a party, but many things are reusable. I’ve heard of having a “sprinkle” for the 2nd baby. A party to celebrate, but no registry or expectation of gifts. 

    Post # 11
    1680 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My mom got showers pretty frequently (I’m the oldest of 8).  She had one when I was born, when my twin brothers were born (I was 5.  We have a sister inbetween us), and then one again 8 years later when the next set of kids started coming.  I think she had 2 during that time (she had 2 boys followed by 2 girls spaced out over 5 years). 

    Personally, I don’t have a problem with multiple showers for families.  It would be kinda odd if they were within 2 years and same gender, but otherwise, as long as the mom isn’t throwing the party have fun and enjoy the blessing of a new baby!

    Post # 12
    1216 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’ve never heard of not doing a baby shower for a second baby. I wouldn’t think of it as tacky. You still always need more diapers, more clothes, and a second car seat etc if the kids are close together.

    Post # 13
    1931 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think it’s fine if the babies are different genders, or are very far apart. Granted I’d probably only have one for my first and then a celebration (NOT a shower) for the second baby. I think if the second baby is a different gender than the first and the shower is just for clothes and not big stuff like swings, carseats, toys, etc, that’s fine. Expecting brand new versions of the things you received the first time around IS gift-grabby. 

    Post # 14
    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My cousin had a boy then a girl. She had no girl’s clothes. The shower was so she could collect things she needed, not just a few things she didn’t need. She put it specifically on the invite as well, that she needed only items specifically for girls. She is pregnant with her third, and she’s not having another shower, since she has items for boys and girls now. Our social group is very uppedy, so I would think a snyde remark would have been said if her second shower was viewed as tacky.

    Post # 15
    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Typically people don’t throw their own showers, so I don’t see it as gift grabby.

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