Post # 1
I’ve been invited to a baby shower for a co-worker I do not like (I won’t go into the reason). Even thought I do not like this person I am professional with her at work but generally try to avoid her company as much as possible. I have declined the invitation but wonder if I should send a gift. I would not consider a gift except that this is her first baby and feel that most people in the office will think it odd if I don’t give her anything. I prefer to keep my personal feelings about this person private and would rather not have the office gossips wondering why I did not give her anything. What do you think?
Post # 3
I was invited to a baby shower for a co-worker, and I didn’t go. Any all my co-workers pooled money for a gift, and I didn’t contribute, because I don’t like being told how to spend my money! I didn’t feel bad. I didn’t think twice about it. There are any number of reasons for not financially contributing to something at work. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 4
@ShaylaClk: I would send a card with a giftcard. Regardless of what she’s done it’s always nice to do the cordial/right thing. You feel like you should give something, so just give something. No biggie, and then when you do have to see her there isn’t anything added (by your hand) to the already not great work relationship.
Post # 5
I think a giftcard is a good idea. Impersonal, and you don’t have to spend your time picking something out. But if you want to avoid office drama, this is probably the easiest way to go.
Post # 6
My rule of thumb is that if the event is work-related, I treat everyone the same. The last thing you need amongst co-workers is hard feelings.
If I also have a social relationship with someone outside of work, I give them a different gift away from the office.
Post # 7
I’d take the high road and send a gift or gift card.
Post # 8
It’s a tough spot to be placed in, the same happened/is happening to me and a co-worker. But like the other bees suggested, take the high road and give something small with a card. A co-worker held her shower the day of my wedding so I just gave a card. Now the office wants to throw her an office shower too and want us all to pitch in for a gift. If I say no it’ll cause drama and trouble at work so I’ll give but very little and stay as removed as possible. Sometimes doing something you don’t like/don’t want to do is not only the right thing to do but in the end will cause less problems too. Good luck!