Post # 1
My first baby shower is tomorrow! I’m ridiculously excited, not even sure why! I have the second one this weekend. So, I need to pick up some hostess gifts and could use ideas!
For this first shower it isn’t too bad, both of the hostesses are big wine drinkers so I was going to pick up a nice bottle of wine plus a gift card of enough for a second bottle of wine.
I know that one of the hostesses has put in a lot more work than the other – the other is basically just providing the space. But I assume I should get them both an equal present?
For shower #2, it is harder. It is hosted by SIL x2 and MIL. I know that the whole thing has basically been put together but SIL#1 but again, I figure I should get the two the same gift. MIL could get something different as she is just providing the space (not that I don’t appreciate that!) These three ladies are really different from each other. MIL I tend to buy edible gifts, got her a huge thing of tea for xmas which she really liked. SIL#1 would like something like a manicure whereas SIL#2 would think that was very frivolous. I was thinking of just buying all three a manicure gift certificate but I could only afford something at a nail salon, not a nice spa. I’m trying to keep the gifts around $25.
Also – when do I give these gifts? Right when I get there? All new to me!
Post # 3
@envirobride: how about an umbrella and a card that says “thanks for the shower”… You can get really cute ones at Target
Post # 4
I got my hostesses books. One is into felt crafting, so I got just two books of designs. The other us, a speech pathologist and a Buffy fan so I got her “slayer slang” and a childrens book she asked for. The mom who is providing the space is hard, doesn’t eat sweets, sells tea and doesn’t drink. Thinking a nice plant.
Post # 5
@envirobride: I learn something new every day. I had NO idea a hostess gift was expected at showers. I have now given 4 showers (3 baby and I bridal) and have never received a hostess gift. Is this a regional or cultural thing? I am genuinely interested not trying to start an arguement or debate.
Post # 6
I think it’s ok to give different shower gifts at shower #2
Post # 7
@envirobride: my mom & 2 friends threw my shower. I chose jewelry from etsy for each of them. It was stuff I found on their Pinterest & then confirmed thru sneaky means that they really liked them. For my mom, I chose a monogram necklace w my soon to be born son & nephew’s initials. All were around $30 & only required about 10 days forethought.
I gave the gifts during a quiet moment at the shower.
Post # 8
@mjwyatt84: I’m pretty sure this is customary in American culture. I’m reading a wedding planning book by Mindy Weiss and learning all about who to buy thank you gifts for and who we are supposed to tip and such. It’s crazy. I had no idea for some of them and I would feel kind of embarrassed if I didn’t know and didn’t tip/buy a thank you gift by not knowing. Especially if the vendors/person hosting my bridal shower knew about the etiquette and felt like I wasn’t appreciative. So much pressure! The girls you hosted for may have just not known.
OP I think a gift card/certificate for a mani/pedi might be kind of a nice gift for $25! I’d either give it at the end of the shower or send a nice thank you card with it in the mail.
Post # 9
@mjwyatt84: I’m from Canada, pretty customary here too.
Post # 10
What about a prerty teapot for MIL?
Post # 11
I think I’m giving my hostesses Diamond Candles. I’ve never gotten them, but a lot of people say the candles are great plus I think its kind of fun and different, even if they get a cheapo ring. The down side is the scents are limited.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for the input!
@mjwyatt84: I don’t know if it is customary, I just assumed. But I am the type of person who won’t even go for dinner without taking something along as a little thank you.
The umbrella idea is really cute. Candles are a great idea too. I would love a pretty teapot but my MIL is so picky, I don’t think I could do it. DH suggested a gift certificate to a local restaurant too – added bonus that he will go and pick them up 🙂 So that might work.
My mom has decided to attend at the last minute so fingers crossed for drama free shower…
Post # 13
It is my personal opinion that you can never go wrong with tea and plants. It is almost spring so you can probably find some beautiful lillies or flowering potted plants at homedepot and get some cute matching pots for them. I know plants always brighten up my office and kitchen when I get them. If they have a terrible track record with plants maybe a fancy tea collection or some great coffee and a certificate to their favorite coffee shop? just a thought