(Closed) Baby Shower Issues

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Why wouldn’t they still throw the shower if you have it at your house? I don’t get it. Did you explain it is a far commute for most guests to travel to their house? I truly don’t get it.

Post # 5
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yikes. Do you think perhaps it would be best to have somebody else host your shower? What if they were to drink too much during your shower?!! Could somebody on your side of the family or a friend do it? Sorry, that sounds like a crazy situation!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would simply ask them to not throw the shower for us then. Maybe another family member or friend can throw you guys a shower.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Yikes, they sound ridiculous!  Is there anyone else who can throw  you a shower?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@BoiledPNut:  I definitely wouldn’t want him throwing me my shower, whether he is family or not! He sounds like a mean person. ๐Ÿ™ 

I don’t have anybody in my family that could do it, so my best friends (two of them) are throwing our baby shower! Do you have friends that could do it?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Simple they gave you an out take it! They have no reason to be offend because they clearly stated that if they can’t have it at thier house they aren’t hosting so they have to own their choices.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would bow out as gracefully as possible and cite all the reasons you have here (not the mold one).  Then once your little one is born, host a “Sip and Tea” at your house to show off the baby ๐Ÿ™‚  You probably will not get as many gifts as you would for a an official shower, but it doesn’t seem like you thinking about that at all.  (This is assuming there is no one else to host).  Good luck with whatever you decide as this is a sticky situation!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would just have a small shower guest list for the one they throw.  I.e. your close friends and family that would be okay riding with you.  And then have someone else host a shower locally.  

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would do two showers like Vintage suggested that way their feelings aren’t hurt since they offered . And you guy can have the Baby-Q for everyone that lives closer to you!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m having three for the sake of keeping the peace. Hey, if that many people want to throw me a baby shower, I’m game!

Allow them to throw you a baby shower, but just let them know that someone else has agreed to throw one for you closer to home, so the guest lists will be different.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BoiledPNut:  Sorry you have to deal with this, it sounds horrible. To be honest it sounds like you need to lay down the law with your FIL anyway. When the baby comes you are going to be the one who has final say over its saftey and health. Personally I would not want to take my child to a mouldy house with alcoholics in it. It sounds like your FIL needs to be in control and if things aren’t his way, then he rejects them. Fact of the matter is, he will have to accept that you and your DH have final say on all things bebe and this is just the beginning of it. 

Hope this works out for you. In the end if your FIL throws a strop and cuts your DH out again it is his own loss. You do not need to panda to self centered alcoholics.

Good luck!
 

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